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Carla Show full post »
mjkz
I'm one that has had my daughter with a therapist right from the start.  Honestly the best therapists my daughter has had have not had an ED background and focused on other things.  My daughter has a strong trauma history so she has done well with people who could deal with the trauma issues.
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Carla
Hi Tina

van you send me a link to the manual. I’ll also send her the videos to watch
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ValentinaGermania
https://www.amazon.de/Treatment-Manual-Anorexia-Nervosa-Second/dp/1462523463/ref=sr_1_fkmr2_1?__mk_de_DE=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&keywords=fbt+treatment+manual+lock+legrange&qid=1558542447&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmr2

Great for her to learn what is important is also:
https://www.amazon.de/Survive-FBT-Undertaking-Treatment-Adolescent-ebook/dp/B01CCDSQ62/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?__mk_de_DE=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&keywords=fbt+treatment+manual+lock+legrange&qid=1558542488&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmr0

https://www.amazon.de/Anorexia-other-Eating-Disorders-compassionate/dp/0993059805/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?__mk_de_DE=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&keywords=Eva+musby&qid=1558542520&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmrnull

Sorry, the links are from german amazon site but I think you can chose your country there.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Carla
Thank you Tina. 

I’ll look at the books and talk with her

We might get a different therapist through mental health now
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Carla
mjkz wrote:
I'm one that has had my daughter with a therapist right from the start.  Honestly the best therapists my daughter has had have not had an ED background and focused on other things.  My daughter has a strong trauma history so she has done well with people who could deal with the trauma issues.


my daughter has anxiety since grade 6, she is in 10 now. That’s what I’d like the therapist to work on and her self esteem

We do have ED therapists in town, however, the first one was a disaster. We might have access to a new one from the mental health. I hope it goes well

We had ED clinic today. My D is so much better. The ED team is really happy with her progress. She eats well and I watch her like a hawk 
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ValentinaGermania
That sounds great. The MH therapist is worth a try. Check out if he/she can support you, that is most important thing now.
My d was born with anxiety I think and her self esteem was very bad after bullying in grade 6. We worked on anxiety by exposition (like fear food) and changed things at home to work on self esteem (more work in the household, do-it-yourself stuff with hubby, doing things for others to feel "needed").
It did not help that hundreds of people would tell her that she is nice and gorgious and a wonderful person when she did not believe it herself. But the feeling to be needed and to so something for others helped more than all words. And the feeling to be able to do things other girls of her age cannot do (like repairing her bike, drilling holes into the wall to hang up a book shelf) helped to improve her self-esteem too.
All docs and pediatricians and therapists in the past when she was a small child told us to wait and give her time and then she will do all these things that her peers were able to at a much younger age but this did not happen. Looking back we should have exposed her to her anxieties much earlier and that might have prevented ED to move in.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Carla
That is a wonderful perspective. I’ll make an appoint with the MH counsellor and discuss this approach 

Meanwhile I’ll start on the points you made. She already works with the leadership group at school since grade 8
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ValentinaGermania
She can maybe help in an animal shelter or read the newspapers to an old lady or walk the dog of a neighbor.
She can do stuff in the household. She can do do-it-yourself things with hubby.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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