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Becs
Hi all. We have been climbing the mountain of post-IP recovery for the last 6 months. Ups and downs but generally got to a good place. My D is WR, comfortably eats most foods, most behaviors are easing, she is spending more time with the family and 'allowing' herself to chill in front of the fire, watch movies (all new). We have had some blips around new foods and a little exercise compulsion but have worked through these. Still doing FBT weekly. She has a good relationship with the therapist.

I'm 99% sure that purging was never a feature of her illness over the last 18 months of her illness. Exercise was her 'purge' of choice. However, today I found what looks like food remnants on the toilet brush (sorry gross) This is the only evidence I have (and I am a regular bedroom searcher)

In the last 3 weeks, I had added 500 calories a day as weight gain had plateaued (I'm aiming for WR+) She had seemingly accepted this with no complaint as she 'wants her boobs back'!

I am well aware of how purging needs to be tackled, if that's what's going on. But some advice on how to approach this initially would be useful. She is often at her most honest in our FBT meetings (we have one tomorrow) so I'm thinking of asking her directly then in front of the therapist. Or I can confront her with the evidence and ask her directly. Or I can do nothing and continue to monitor the situation. I have never done bathroom supervision and starting now gives me the absolute horrors. I will do what it takes but want to handle this as well as possible. Thanks
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Enn

You could any of those things. You do need to know what is going on. I have heard here as well to look at the inside of the toilet bowl the underneath part and look for particular matter (like confetti).
Also if purging they run right after a meal to purge although some can do it hours later.

I agree you have to know and take care of it if it is present

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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ValentinaGermania
Becs wrote:

I am well aware of how purging needs to be tackled, if that's what's going on. But some advice on how to approach this initially would be useful. She is often at her most honest in our FBT meetings (we have one tomorrow) so I'm thinking of asking her directly then in front of the therapist. Or I can confront her with the evidence and ask her directly. Or I can do nothing and continue to monitor the situation. I have never done bathroom supervision and starting now gives me the absolute horrors. I will do what it takes but want to handle this as well as possible. Thanks


Can you ask your FBT therapist what way would be best in her eyes?
Purging should be stopped asap and with full power. It is really hard to get rid of again. So I personally would not blame her in any way but confront her with the new rule that bathroom privacy will stop now for some time x until this is solved.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Becs
Thanks very much for the responses @ValentinaGermania and @Enn. Sorry not to reply sooner - these last couple of weeks have been overwhelming for us all. With further investigation, I now think this was a false alarm although the radar is always 100% on x
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Enn
Oh @Becs, that is good to hear!
Thanks for the update!
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When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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