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Has anyone heard of or experienced/used this form of therapy for themselves?
if so was it useful?
or am I just wasting more of my hard earned money ?? $$😢
apparently works  on your negative sub conscious?
ive always thought of myself a very positive person though

possibly deep down my d illness is starting to change me on a deeper level

im not surprised if that’s so 🤨
amyway just thoughtI’d ask if anyone has tried it 
I just had a quick check what that is.
Pro: it does seem to be a documented therapy form and no "religion/sect" 🙂
Contra: it is not an accepted standard therapy here in Germany (that is not really a "contra" as FBT is one (accepted standard therapy) but nobody does it)

If you have some money to "waste" I would give it a try for a few sessions and see if it could help you. I do not see wether it could do any harm to you besides losing some money. Maybe worth a try?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
I am struggling to find any research on it via Google Scholar. I can find this article there, it is in German. https://www.koha-verlag.de/fileadmin/user_upload/produkte/dateien/5083_leseprobe.pdf
There is this one in English, not sure if they are similar things. It certainly does not appear to be evidence based for ED's and seems to be about changing beliefs. ? https://innermostsherpa.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/PSYCH-K-Research.pdf
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
If I understood that correct Kazi is looking for that for herself and not for her ED d. For EDs I would surely not trust on that. Am I right, Kazi? Is it for you?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Yes for me Tina NOT my d
just thought someone may have knowledge on it and wether it was useful or not 
did try to read the article foodsupport but I have massive headache and it’s not making much sense to me atm 
will give them a call and see what I think 

I would save your money and go for a different kind of therapy.  Even the most positive of people would find it hard to remain this way while fighting an ed.  It is the most horrendous experience and how can you feel positive when your child has a life-threatening illness?  That said, some kind of talking therapy may help in having a professional to 'offload' to rather than just friends.  Just some space to give yourself time to think and process what is happening and how to adjust your response to ensure the best possible outcomes.  Self care in all this is very important - I just don't feel that having doubts about your positivity is the way forward - it is about developing the resilience to stay the course and believe you can get a recovery all while dealing with the every day stresses.  Down moments are to be expected.  But they have to be sent on their way with a bout of renewed determination to keep going.
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
Hi melstevUK
I was seeing a therapist for myself and it was helpful but I had just heard of this and thought if someone had found it useful perhaps I could try it (Im willing to try anything to help myself)  

it can get very depressing at times when it’s a huge emotional roller coaster dealing with d in and out of hospital, limited  control and info over anything as she is now an adult and working, did move out for a period, but now home again 
it goes on and on.........

i get that I need to stay resilient (and I believe I have been really under considerable stress for the past 2 1/2 - 3 years when all her issues started
serious anxiety, SH........all morphing nicely into AN, then her becoming “adult” 
all makes it very difficult as her team tell us little 

I do focus on the positives it’s just been such a long time now and I’ve been quite sick myself this past month (very nasty cold/flu/chest infection) 2 courses antibiotics, still coughing 

I think I’m rambling but it’s kind of making me realise why I’m feeling a bit down
just got home from GP and his ordered some tests, so hopefully get to the bottom of why I feel so poorly 

it’s so hard to keep it all together isn’t it, to work, run the house, cook, clean, continued stress in my mind about my d, then when your own health suffers, it’s just so hard 
I feel we have given our d 150 percent support this whole time and I really find there isn’t a lot for parents/carers
i stopped carers meetings as hopefully the ones others go to aren’t as depressing as the ones I went to when we basically felt we were told she would never recover 🙁

we’ll that isn’t an option as I will never give up
if anyone reads this as hard as it can be please do not give up!!!!
my d IS recovering even if it hasn’t been the nice cruisey little 5 months “oh she’s back to normal life is great journey” 
that is really hard to read when it just isn’t happening as fast as you would like it to

as poorly as I feel just now, my d is doing well
out of hospital and back at work yay!!!!

i am excited for her future although I know we will always be watching, worrying, but forever greatfull for the wonderful care she receives from her dedicated team 

thanks for your kind words mekstevUK
i needed that today 
sorry for rambling
Hi Kazi, it looks very interesting and I'm a big believer that our thoughts shape our minds and eventually our reality. Although I've never heard of Psych K, I've been practicing positive thoughts for several years now and it has only improved my life. I haven't been to a therapist, only listening to Joel Osteen's podcasts (Be a rainmaker explains how to ask for things, for example. Another good podcast is Hit the delete button - what to do when negative thoughts pop up). I would be very interested in your experiences with Psych K therapy if you do decide to give it a go. Please keep us updated.
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww