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Pingu
So week at dads and 1kg loss
here we go again
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blondie
Sounds like there needs to be a conversation had with dad - how closely is he involved in treatment? Does he know exactly what should be had and when? Are the foods that your D needs available/do they feel comfortable asking for them? Are they more responsible for preparing/sorting their food when they are there and are they comfortable/able to manage that?
It could be down to being more active - or even being anxious whilst away - but if this becomes a regular pattern then there needs to be a plan....
In the meantime, your house, your rules
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Pingu
Hi blonde thanks hun
id day read the old posts Cos there’s tonnes
her dad (and most and in sure 95%) are on board hers isn’t 
read previous and you’ll get a better picture
Thank you 
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melstevUK
Pingu, how utterly soul-destroying.  Is there any way right now d can spend more time with you?  Does she do a week with you and a week with dad and is there any way that this arrangement can be altered if that is the case?  Has he been to see your d's clinical team?  Someone needs to be telling him very clearly that he is totally undermining your d's recovery.
I feel so sorry - this battle is bad enough without having someone pulling you backwards.  I know you have had such a tough time already.  You can really do without this.
I don't know what to suggest but it clearly has to stop.  You are clearly utterly exhausted and must be in the depths of despair.
We have to find a way to help things get better for you.  Can you say a way forward or for a way to make changes?
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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Pingu
Well I’m taking it to court for an urgent hearing. Going for full custody regardless of her wishes and I’m gonna fight for her. 
He wont let me have her full time Cos that’s the way he is 
he would see it as me winning
pathetic I know
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Ellesmum
Pingu wrote:
Well I’m taking it to court for an urgent hearing. Going for full custody regardless of her wishes and I’m gonna fight for her. 
He wont let me have her full time Cos that’s the way he is 
he would see it as me winning
pathetic I know


Good, this is exactly what you need to do, her wishes can’t count at the moment, she can’t make good decisions at this point.  Do you have CAMHs to help you? Social services or anyone?  
Ellesmum
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melstevUK
Pingu, 

I thought about Social Services too but I wouldn't trust their understanding of the illness and I think they would end up siding on h and d's side.   Support from CAMHS is your best bet.
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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Ellesmum
melstevUK wrote:
Pingu, 

I thought about Social Services too but I wouldn't trust their understanding of the illness and I think they would end up siding on h and d's side.   Support from CAMHS is your best bet.


Yes, true it’s just social services got in touch with me offering support after a hospital visit.  I hope very much CAMHs can back you up here Pingu and you can make the court understand that it’s the same as dad withholding insulin or other lifesaving medication for your daughter.  
Ellesmum
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tina72
I would also take that to court, you need to do this to save her life.
If he is not able to help her recover he cannot be allowed to care for her.
If she had diabetes and he would not make sure she takes her insulin at his house she would not be allowed to stay there. Use that example to show them it is a life threatening case.
If we can help with information for the lawyer or studies or anything please ask. We are here.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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