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Pingu
So d has lost just about all the weight from ip since discharge in March. 
2nd admission. Is imminent and she is in total denial.
Nothing I can do to stop this train crash. 
I'm emotionally running on empty 
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ValentinaGermania
Hi Pingu,

I am so sorry to hear that. Is there already a date for the 2nd admission? Will she go to the same place?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Pingu
Hi there
No they will try and avoid sending her where she has been before. 
She could go anywhere in the country
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Foodsupport_AUS
Sorry this is happening. It sounds like it can't happen soon enough. I hope they can find a bed for her at a place that will get her into a better place before discharge next time. Thinking of you. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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CED123
So sorry to hear that pingu. Thinking of your and sending you strength 
Currently no light; only tunnel 🙁
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ValentinaGermania
Hopefully it will be soon and not so far away from you and she will be in a better IP there and I hope they will plan discharge better this time and have a contract with her.
Keep us updated. We are with you in spirit.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Kali
So sorry Pingu. Sometimes it takes a couple of rounds of treatment before remission can start. I hope she will be somewhere not that far away and be in a better place next time she comes home. The longer she can be fully nourished the better for her.

Take good care of yourself.

Kali
Food=Love
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Mamaroo
I'm so sorry she has lost the weight. I have no word of advice, just sending you lots of hugs 

🤗

D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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Pingu
I came home early from work after talking to the dietician. My d has 2 meal support session s this week to see how rigid the anorexia a is then Ip.
She doesn't think it's gonna happen and no matter what I say she won't budge. I literally cried and begged on knees for her to eat and gain weight 
She's counting down the days to year 11 and I know she won't be here
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deenl
Hi Pingu,

So sorry that the illness is so strong. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. On the slightly more positive side, your daughter has access to many levels of treatment and she will get the one that keeps her safe. 

Wishing you continued strength and courage,

D
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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melstevUK
Hi Pingu,

I am so sorry for what you are going through.  Some patients seem to be able to hold at a low weight without going right down to rock bottom; others have a tendency to zoom right down and when the slide starts it is well nigh impossible to stop.  If it is any consolation - my d had two hospitalisations initially and a third one when she was much older so as desperate as you may feel, it still does not mean that recovery is not possible.  It is going to take a long long time unfortunately.  
Are they actively looking now for a bed? I would be pressing for her to go back in as soon as possible because the lower her bmi the harder it is to climb back up so can you press her team to take her in as soon as possible?
My heart goes out to you - it really is horrendous watching this slide and knowing there is nothing you can do to prevent it.  When she is back in, you need to take the time to rest initially then plan for how you are going to stay in charge or at least get her to accept that she has to maintain a strict meal plan if she is going to push forward, when she comes back out.
It is an incredibly scary and lonely place to be and I just hope your psychiatrist finds a bed soon.
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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ValentinaGermania
Be the squeeky wheel until they have an IP bed for her no matter what she dreams of to do in year 11. Better to have year 11 delayed and do it with good recovery than not be able to do it at all. I cross fingers she gets a bed soon. Keep us updated.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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