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I found this article on the process of refeeding today that I thought I would share.  It seems very comprehensive and might be worth a read for those interested in what the stages of the process look like, what is known about them, and why it is a necessity.

It's not written for carers particularly, but there are some pithy quotes for helping keep our focus where it needs to be too, including:

discomfort is expected.

Many people report feeling great relief as they approach or achieve a healthy weight. Rarely is it as bad as they expected it to be.

The eating disorder feeds on inflated fears of the unknown.

It also reminds me of the times that a wise poster here used to talk about the need for "distress tolerance".  it's hard to watch someone you love become distressed; harder still sometimes to resist the temptation to respond intuitively by removing the source rather than bear witness to it; taking the time to learn why, in these circumstances, tolerating distress is a necessity really helps.

For anyone new to refeeding, be warned, anxiety levels among carers can increase around talk of "refeeding syndrome".  It is a thing, and it can happen - it is also, I am reliably informed, VERY rare - although medical support should never be too far from the scene in eating disorder treatment.
Erica, UK

Wow.  Well done. What a great find. This has to be the best ever article on what exactly is involved with the whole process of weight gain and recovery, including physical and psychological responses. Can it be added to our information pages?  This is such a 'must read' for all parents of children with an. 
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
Fantastic article...thank you for sharing that! We are in the re-feeding process...hardest thing ever! Thank you again for that [smile]
Has the link to the article been removed? I can't see it.
What's the name of the article? Maybe I can google it.
d=18, R-AN, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Refed at home with information gathered from this forum and lots of books. Relapsed. Refed. Relapsed. Refed. 17 sessions with an excellent individual therapist. 19 sessions with unhelpful dietician. 3 sessions of DBT (didn't like it). Psychiatrist available if needed. Prozac - fail. Lexapro - fail. 5HTP - fail. Clorazepam/Klonopin = major improvement, only used when necessary. Genomind SLC6A4 short/short - not able to process SSRI's.
d=15, lost 14 lbs in 8 months, Ped [nono]diagnosed as a crystal on a hair in the ear canal
This truly is an excellent article; thanks for providing the link Erica.

in EB's post, click on the light blue text which says 'this article' as that is the hyperlink which will bring you to the article itself.

I will be including this in my own personal reference file....
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou