Our 15yo D stepped down from residential to partial hospitalization on Monday. She’s told us all along that she was only eating in order to come home, and that as soon as she did she would stop eating. Her treatment team told us that is very common to say, but we needed to give her a chance. Sure enough, she refused all food for the first day and has eaten only 25% so far today.
She is very honest that she doesn’t want to recover. She says she wants to be/look sick. She is a calorie counter and can’t force herself not to count as she knows the calories of any food by heart.
I’ve tried coming up with short term incentives for her to eat, like being able to use her phone or watch Netflix. I told her she had to complete at least 50% for those (and will increase the % as she’s able). She loves the beach, and I told her we’d do a beach trip in August if she stays on track, but she says she doesn’t care. It’s not incentive enough. Nor is much of anything else - she is content to not see friends or do anything that might entice other kids.
Not sure what I’m looking for other than maybe some hope. We’re only 5 months into this, but it already feels like a lifetime. I feel like her ED has such an incredibly strong grip on her, and I have no idea how we get it to let go.
15yo D diagnosed with AN-R Jan 2020. Hospitalized since late January. Almost fully weight restored as of late May; ED voices remain very strong.
We agreed to give her 2 weeks to get back on track before elevating her level of care, so that’s what we’ll do. I just wish we could figure out how to help her find the motivation to recover.