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rubiegirl8_USA
I'm trying to come up with something to post on social media that counters all the weight loss talk while not sounding like I'm putting anyone down, or like I'm looking down on anyone. Not a response to anything. Just a personal post.

Any ideas?
dd 17yr old dx april 2013 at 12yrs old, W/R end of july 2013, phase 3, california
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Colleen
Offer different resolutions?  "I'm going for better brain health!" or "I will start flossing" or "My goal is better socks"?
Colleen in the great Pacific Northwest, USA

"What some call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, isn't much better than tedious disease."
Alexander Pope, 1688-1744
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mamabear
My goal is to love and accept myself for who I am and the beautiful body I have been given.
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
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mec
I posted a resolution regarding carving some alone time, spending more focused time with family and reconnecting in a personal way with friends. I think if enough people do this, post new year's resolutions that don't have to do with weight or exercise, some people might take notice.

I  have commented on a couple of people's posts, to the effect of "how about we are just thankful for this season and is bounty instead of worrying and focusing on calories and weights?". I also told a 16 year old friend of my d's, when she posted that she was getting fat by just looking at the desserts, that she was beautiful and even if she were to gain weight she would still be beautiful, so stop worrying about weight and fat, etc. She actually thanked me and said that I was so sweet to say that.
21 year old daughter who was DX with RAN at 9 years old. The work of recovery is ongoing. 
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3katz_USA
If you are on Facebook, take a look at author Anne Lamott's most recent post in which she invites the world to join her in not dieting this New Year's.  I wouldn't recommend it for an ED patient, but for those family members who are feeling stressed as the New Year's resolutions/fat talk/diet talk starts to kick in, this was a lovely breath of fresh air when one of my friends shared it recently.  I applaud all of you for wanting to take a stand, in your own life, to thoughfully ask people to think differently about this issue!  XO
"Love. That was what she had that IT did not have." - Madeleine L'Engle, A Wrinkle in Time
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rubiegirl8_USA
I like the more direct approach of coming right out and saying what I mean, although I do love the suggestions. I just want to get this most important message out loud and clear, but with tact and care and love. I'm going to go.check out anne lammott.

Happy new year!!!
dd 17yr old dx april 2013 at 12yrs old, W/R end of july 2013, phase 3, california
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Doglady
mamabear wrote:
My goal is to love and accept myself for who I am and the beautiful body I have been given.


Amen!! I was not tuned in to how incredibly prevalent these social media messages are until d was dx. It's epidemic, and I agree that posting something to counter all the weight focus is a gentle way to encourage others to look at themselves differently. I love your suggestion!
Libby fisher
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rubiegirl8_USA
here's what I ended up with:

This year I will put losing weight last on my list because there are too many other things in this world more important than what size I wear.
dd 17yr old dx april 2013 at 12yrs old, W/R end of july 2013, phase 3, california
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gobsmacked_US

This might be a nice thing to share as an alternative:

I don't see this as a "solution" to EDs, but a good response to the New Year's weight loss resolutions.

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