I am new here, and am in shock to be here. I read posts here a few years ago when a former coworker's daughter was very ill. I think in a twisted way I thought that knowing about eating disorders prevented me from having a child develop one.
But here I am. My d turned 13, had been overweight, grew, started cutting out sugar, my husband had an accident (stress trigger?) but seemed ok. In the last month or so she seemed to be over exercising, started restricting. I insisted upon meals, starting forbidding the "workout", but I let her have some control over the meals. She started self checking and obsessing.
I talked to dr and took her to a counselor, but finally called a program in my town to have her evaluated (really have only been noticing issues for 2 or so months). Assessment yesterday resulted in dx of "atypical an." Will start IOP either mid week next week or the beginning of the week after.
Her raging has significantly increased. She hasn't been great, but tolerated meals, which were not from her "favorite list" but snacks are terrible, and I just tried a pudding cup. She finally took a spoonful.
COuld the raging be worse around food because I'm making more demands and trying (sometimes failing) not to give in to the incessant, "Am I fatter? questions. From what I read it could be a good sign, or is that too much to hope for?
Should I wait to start treatment before worrying about the foods she has the most difficult time with?
Is there ever a time to hospitalize because of out of control behavior around food?
Often, after the meals are over, I find myself crying, and then she cries and this brings us back to "normal" but I have a feeling that this isn't really healthy.
I'm terrified because she says she does NOT want to get better. I'm so scared she won't get better, and this is so difficult for my husband because of his health issues.
Thank you, I have learned so much from reading this website, these boards, and related books.