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Found this forum in a book I'm reading.  My 15yo D has just stepped down to PHP after 3 months in residential ED hospital.  She has restored but of course we can't cover every mirror or window where she can see herself and she continues to have body image issues.    Today I broke a cardinal rule because I was concerned and peeked in her journal.  I feel guilty but that quickly turned into frustration because she wrote that she has purged at least twice in 7 days.  She's also been restricting a bit by negotiating snacks and some meals are not 100%.  Every bathroom in our house stays locked but her sisters so she went there late at night and she also purged in the tub.  We follow having her with us right after she eats for up to 2 hours and she still wants to purge. uggg. 

I feel like I need eyes in the back of my head and can't keep track of her all the time.  This is exhausting... I also think I need to tell her therapist even though I came to the information by snooping. 
Hi Jane_B17,
I am so glad that you found us here, welcome in the club nobody wants to be in!
Purging is VERY serious for her health and needs to be stopped asap.
You MUST tell it to her team, no matter how you found it out. Please do not feel bad about it, it is very important that you found that out!

The change from residential to php to home again is very tricky and a hard time for all. Try to supervise her as much as possible, that is necessary. Yes, it is exhausting, but if you close ED loopholes early you can win that war!
Ask all your 1 million questions, here are always nice parents that can try to help you!

If she purges late at night it might be necessary to sleep with her. You must make purging impossible to stop it.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Hi Jane_B17,
Welcome to the forum. I do hope that you find the support and information you need to help your d. 
Please read around the forum and the FEAST site.

We do all wish to help in anyway we can so please ask all the questions you have.

For the purging you are right to keep watch over her and keeping access to areas where she could purge off limits. I do think you need to tell the therapist about your concerns. 

How can we help? Please ask away, there are so many forum members that there is always someone around that has been through the same thing and can offer advice.
All the best,

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)