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I am very new to the ED world.  my daughter was diagnosed with anorexia in April of this year and has been in hospital getting medically stable ever since.  She has had some bumps in the road but is now eating though does not want my husband or I to sit in on meals (it is protocol here that the nurse sits with her at first then we gradually switch over).
I am in awe of some of the discussions I have read here and can only say thank God this forum exists.  Though I wish none of us had to go through this, It is good to have the support of those who have been there.
my daughter is just turned 13, suffers from quite severe social anxiety, is slightly ocd and is dealing with ed.  any advice anyone has is so very welcome.  she goes through some pretty dramatic mood swings (from cuddly and wanting me to stay with her one moment to telling me to leave the next).  she has just recently started eating again (Friday) after surviving on Ensure for the past month after a relapse wher she refused to eat and had an ng tube inserted.  she appears to be doing well right now but we have been here before and are trying not to get our hope up too high.
I have already been helped just by reading the posts here, Thank You.
Mom Up North
Welcome to the forum. Sorry that you have had to find us here. 
Many kids seem to go through this phase of not wanting parents to eat with them. Sometimes one, sometimes the other or both. My D struggled to eat at home and when in hospital only would have selected meals with me. She had to pick off the menu from the day before so knew what meal was coming. If it was a hard meal she wouldn't eat with me but preferred the nurse. She wanted meals with me to be a success and wanted to be able to dislike the nurses for making her eat the hard meals. ED logic is hard to follow or figure. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Hi momupnorth,
Welcome, and, I'm sorry you have to be here but so glad you found this forum.

My d suffers from social anxiety, too. Here's a video I have watched a couple of times that explains how a mom's gentle approach to exposure therapy helped a girl overcome her social anxiety: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tq4klkup4mk

Be patient, have confidence and faith that your d will get better with time. All best to you.


Just want to say Hi and welcome to the group, but so sorry you need to be here with us.  It sounds like your D is still in the hospital?  If so, spend this time gaining as much knowledge as you can on how and ways to beat ED.   Knowledge is power!   Ask lots of questions here, this is such a great group of collective wisdom.   Do you have plans for when she is discharged from the hospital?  Are you looking into PHP or IOP programs, or are you going to try refeeding at home?  There is no "one" correct way to fight this illness, you have to do what works best for your family and situation.    Hang in there!
Hi Momupnorth,

I am new here to FEAST and my D is in hospital right now--day 14.  I just wanted to let you know we are in same exact spot as you.  I had felt so alone until I found FEAST and that has helped me so much.  So, we are in this together and surrounded by so much wisdom  This site is a God-send to me and am so thankful for it. So sorry we are all here but at least we are NOT alone in this.


(my d is 12 and has Aspbergers so I understand about the social anxiety and OCD part too)
glad I'm not alone in this