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scaredmom

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Honey_Badger, 
Good progress wth the weight gain!
Yes these freak outs are tough and expected. You are getting through and doing very well!

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I'm new here as well, this forum is really hard to use. I keep reading that it's important to address the problem early but I'm not reading anything about how to do so... only advice for more advanced problems. Hope you are having better luck getting the answers you need. Sorry I can't figure out how to start a new post or contact a moderator. 
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Hi tlcmom and welcome,

If you are using a computer you should see a row of red words including 'User's Guide' and the 'Eating Disorders Learning Centre' towards the top centre of the screen. There is also a link to contact a moderator.

If you are using an android phone there is a button called 'Compose' on the bottom right of the screen which will allow you to begin a thread. I'm sorry but I don't know with any of the other phones.

I hope that this helps and you can let us know a little about your situation and we can help support you.

Warm wishes,

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2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, tons of variety in food, stepping back into social life. Sept 2017, back to school full time for the first time in 2 years. Happy and relaxed, just usual non ED hassles. 

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  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal. (but don't give up on the plan too soon, maybe it just needs a tweak or a bit more time and determination [wink] )
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Hi tlcmom,
welcom to that forum and sorry that you have to join us. I had some problems with my login, too, because on my pc it is working different (no idea why). When I login I don´t see that "new topic" button on the right. There is only "welcome, tina72". When you click on "Eating disorders learning center" on top and then "Hearing from other families - Around the dinner table forum - Browse the discussion forum" and then click on "Browse the discussion forum", there will open a new window and now tada!!! the "new topic" button is there and you can use it.
I hope that helped you.
You asked how to adress the problem early:
I think most of us waited too long with intervention and look for help. It is important that you catch ED early when you see that you kid has a disordered eating habit and not wait until he/she lost a lot of weight. It is important to get the weight back asap.
If you cannot set an own thread with the new topic button, feel free to ask in that thread, I think nobody here will mind that.
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Hi Honey-Badger,
the complaining about milk and the vegan eating theme I would watch seriously, you are right with that.
Maybe you can ask her if she wants canola oil (rapeseed) in her smoothie better than milk. If she accepts that, she is "only" on a vegan "safe the animals" trip. If she doesn´t want both, that is alarming.
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updates:

Daughter seems to be doing OK.   She's definitely eating.  I found a new "milk" product at the store a few days ago.   It is called Ripple (Nutritious Pea Milk)

https://www.ripplefoods.com

It is a milk-type drink made of yellow peas.   Nutrition facts per 8 oz serving:  8 g protein; 450 mg calcium; 130 calories; 4.5 g fat.

My daughter enjoys the taste.    I think it is a much better substitute for almond milk or rice or even soy milk because of the higher calories, fat and protein; not to mention the calcium.

I took my son to the doctor for a regular check up.  He has gained a lot of weight the past year, although not anything the last 6 months, I noticed; but I'm not very concerned.  He's been eating very well, but as he is working out, he just needs to eat more.   He is ADAMANT that he wants to gain weight; just has a hard time finding time to eat because he gets distracted by gaming, etc.   He's back to about 20%ile for weight but he should be up at 40%ile.   We'll keep working.

I mentioned to the doctor that his canker sores have pretty much disappeared.  (I always told her I thought the canker sores were a result of mineral deficiency but she always poo pooed my theories.)   She thought for a minute and said, "well, maybe your improved nutritional status has helped your immune system."   Argh!   Ya think??
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"I mentioned to the doctor that his canker sores have pretty much disappeared.  (I always told her I thought the canker sores were a result of mineral deficiency but she always poo pooed my theories.)   She thought for a minute and said, "well, maybe your improved nutritional status has helped your immune system."   Argh!   Ya think??"

So you see your gut was right! Trust your gut with your d, too. You know them both best.
Thanks for the information on Ripple, I don´t know if it is available here but it might help other vegetarian eaters.
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End of June update:

DS 16 recovered from ARFID.  Like TOTALLY recovered!  He is working out three or four times a week, developing muscles and thickening up. He eats everything and he's learning to cook this summer for himself.

DD 13 who I was worried might be developing anorexia -- went for a three month checkup with a new pediatrician at the same practice.  DD has gained 7 pounds since last March, despite joining swim team this summer.  She's eating very well.  She's developed horrible acne and decided she wants to cut out all dairy.  But she's agreed to add eggs and fish back into her diet, and she is doing a great job of finding snacks to eat after swim team practice that involve nuts or seed butter, etc.  She's adding hemp seeds to her cereal and pasta and drinking high calories, non dairy smoothies.  Most days she has a breakfast of two scrambled eggs, two pieces of toast and some grits!

Her mental state is good, and she eats often. She agrees that when she is swimming in the cold pool for an hour she needs to add an extra snack and understands that if she stats to lose weight I will pull her from swim team.

I would still be happier seeing her at about 106 not 102 and need to be better about keeping up with her dietary needs.  I'm sure she'd eat more, if I had more appetizing foods ready at hand.  But just looking at her, she looks great -- very solid strong looking legs and arms, not all wispy.  Her face looks full and solid,too.  

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Wonderful to hear you update and that you son is doing so well. It sounds like you are still watching your D closely and need to. You have done an amazing job.
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I tried to post her BMI Growth chart but couldn't manage it.  I'm so proud of the rise after that sudden dip.

I feel like this new doctor really validated me, as well. She took my daughters drop in weight percentile seriously and was pleased to see the progress.  She picked up on my daughter's perfectionism and anxiety as well, and gently inquired about how much exercising she was doing on swim team. 

I truly believe we averted a problem, but will continue to keep my eyes open and aware with her.
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Hi Honey_Badger

Thanks for the update and it's great to hear about your progress. Happy to see your d has now gained weight. You've come a very far way!

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Great job all the way around!! You rock!
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I did a search and this seems to be the main ARFID thread. Are there any others? If that's true, can I post my DS story here and ask questions about ARFID here?
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Hi bartman99,
Welcome!!
You may post anywhere you like! I would suggest that to get your specific story out, you could start your own new thread just go to the top right where it says "new topic" click and tell us your son's story. 
There are lovely people on here and everyone wants to help. So please ask all the questions you have. 
There is always someone around 24/7 to help or just "listen".

Welcome,again, although so sorry you needed to be here.
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Welcome Bartman99. 

As scaredmom has said you can post where you like. I would suggest starting your own thread and introducing yourself . 

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Hi Bartman99,
I just bumped up another thread called Anorexia VS ARFID,
There is some great info on ARFID on that thread.
Best Wishes  TF

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