I thought about opening a new thread for all parents around here that have a legal adult patient to care for. We could collect legal possibilities in the different contries, contract ideas and what is needed in this special case. It is open for all parents of a legal adult "child" no matter if they are 18 or 38.
To make a start, helping a legal adult person is more difficult because in many contries law and health system ask them to "choose" to be treated and that is difficult with AN. Biggest problem with this disease besides weight loss is anosognosia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anosognosia
And especially the young adults are often some years behind in development so are adult on paper but not emotionally/in mind.
So what can we do?
1. We can ask them to live with us to help them to eat, especially if they are financially dependend from us. A routine of 3 meals 2-3 snacks is easier to follow if you do not eat alone. We can help them not to purge and not to overexercise.
2. We can ask them to allow GP and therapist to share information with us (especially if they are financially dependend from us and we pay for the team). We can encourage them to go to an adult IP program if needed and offer to pay for that.
3. In some contries there are legal rights that prevent people from getting into a life threatening situation. They can be admitted even against their will if it is necessary to keep them alive, for example here in Germany.
4. We can make a contract with them and tell them what we will do and what we will pay for and what they need to do for that. Car key for eating for example...
For introduction: my d is 19, 2 years after diagnose (RAN), doing well and off to University at the moment
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.