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chillsey
Hi Scarlett81 and thank you so much for getting in touch.  It does sound like a very similar story with your s to ours and I really appreciate all the great support and advice.  We have been again to CAMHS today and s has told us that he has been feeling more positive the last few days (we have noticed this) as he is now 4 weeks into having the Fluoxetin.  CAMHS have upped the dosage a little and we have now been instructed to start introducing the snacks one at a time.  This I feel will be our next sticking point as s has refused all snacks in the past.  Fingers crossed that we can do ok with the snacks.  We'll be starting with just the afternoon snack in the beginning.  Thank you for sharing your story of your s, it is really inspirational to hear so many similar stories and how strong everyone is here, and yes you are right about Shaun and Charlotte with the theme park videos, my s loves watching these.  Best wishes 🙂  
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ValentinaGermania
I cross all fingers for afternoon snack today. Try to start with something that might be "safe" in his eyes. Keep us updated! We are thinking of you!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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chillsey
Thank you tina72, much appreciated.  S looked at the snack list earlier that CAMHS had given us and the response was very predictably 'not having that' for nearly everything on the list so we'll definitely go safe to start with.  Thanks for all the support 🙂
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ValentinaGermania
We had also such a list and our FBT trainer did something very tricky: she told my d that she is allowed to exclude 2 items from that list every week but needs to be compliant with the rest. This helped a lot.

We also had a safe food list ("what I can eat"), and a fear food list with 2 blocks: "what I cannot eat at the moment but will try in the next weeks" and "what I cannot even think about eating again at the moment and will try later". Around WR we started to work down the fear food list and every moment one item was reintroduced and changed to the safe list she had to chose one item from the "I will never eat that again list" to move to "not today but in the next weeks". It took us about a year to work all fear food down but today she is eating everything she ate before AN moved in and even more.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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chillsey
Wow what brilliant information and I will definitely try that with S.  Thank you tina72 🙂
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ValentinaGermania
Try not to give him too much to chose at the moment. To ask him what he wants from that list is too much. My d could not even decide between cherry or strawberry yoghurt. Put a snack that you think could be a start in front of him and say "this is your snack" and try to fake that you are totally convinced that he will eat it now.

I would think about introducing the second (morning snack) soon as it does not get easier the longer you wait...

We had fear food day once a week and that day one fear food was reintroduced. Looking back I would do 2 every week to get the list worked down faster... But now first step is to get 3 meals and 2-3 snacks into him. And this can be safe food also if it is easier then. Every calory counts. Whatever it comes from.

It could be easier to offer him a "snack" that is a drink to get started. Some find it easier to drink the calories. So a high caloric milkshake (with hagen daz ice cream for example) or a "healthy looking" fruit smoothie (with granola oil/rapeseed oil added) could be easier. The blender was my best friends in these days...
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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And_bet
Hi, Chris!
I just would like to express my support to your family and wish your son a quick recovery!
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chillsey
Hello And_bet.  Thank you very much for your support and wishes, it's really appreciated 🙂
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