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Annie_OR Show full post »
I wouldnt suggest telling your daughter that her target weight is 145 and than she can drop to 135. It sends the message to her that it's ok to lose weight .
Salome wrote:
So, Mimi321, Should I go back to our D's growth chart and history, calculate those yearly weights, and add the deficit to her current weight? The MD specialists said she surely stunted her growth in her height during her teen years.She never put on that much weight through childhood, a couple of years she grew in height but didn't gain anything! 

My d is also 19 and WR for 1,5 years now and looking back I would give you that advice:
Forget all numbers and the scale. That is just needed to know she is not losing weight.
You will see by her mood and behaviour what weight will be correct for her. What ever number you will think about now might be wrong. That does not help you at all at the moment.
We had no growth chart because my d was only at the doc until 5-6 for some precautionary investigations that all children get and then was not sick until ED moved in at age 16/17. The professionals set a target weight only by BMI which was useless. She reached that target and nothing changed. We kept feeding due to the wonderful parents here and only 2 kg more and we saw a change in behaviour and mood.
You really need to find out what will be a good target for her and nobody can tell you before it happens.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.