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kazi67
Down here in Aussie land it’s Mother’s Day

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!

to all you warrior mummas doing the hardest job ever of fighting for our kids lives
we are all amazing, strong, determined, mothers who love our kids to the moon and beyond
we WILL all beat these evil ED’s
have a lovely day 
take a moment 
breathe ❤️
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Foodsupport_AUS
Happy mother's day to you too Kazi67. Here and I think North America too. 

I hope you have a joyous day.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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krae
Happy Mother's day Kazi67, Foodsupport & all mums.

Happy to report that this year is so much better than last year in our house!

Hope you all have a peaceful day.
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sandie
Sending a big hug to you all on Mother's Day. You are all amazing. Xxx
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tina72
Here in Germany it is Mother´s day too.
To all you amazing ninja mums out there: keep feeding, keep fighting, keep loving although you might get nothing back today, it will get better and you will get every single missed hug and kiss back again!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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scaredmom
Yes in North America it is Mother's Day too. And I do hope that ED gives all of us some reprieve today. And remember, if things are tough right now, it is OK. It is just another day.  Not only will next year be sweeter for the hard work you are doing now, but everyday, not just Mother's Day will be "mother's day". The joy you will experience having a healthy child, no matter what day it is is the best  gift/day- ever. 
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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sk8r31
Couldn't agree more with scaredmom.  You are all doing hero's work.  Cheers to all the mums and moms and mamas around the world!  If you are in the trenches...brighter days are ahead.  Take at least a few moments today to celebrate all that you have done, and continue to do, to put your child's health at the forefront.  Huge hugs to you all!
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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Chocolate
Happy Mother's Day to all the bravest mothers in the forum. I remember when we were fighting ED some years ago how hard was Mother's Day for everyone in our home, I am posting today to let you know to keep fighting and to give you hope, the light is at the end of the tunnel. It is a long haul but worth the battle, when our d was eating lunch today without any fear I was remembering the old days and I thought "this is the best Mother's Day present!". You will be there too. 
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tina72
You are for sure not a failure but we all are not born as warrior mums and this needs to be learned (as everything in life).
Next home leave will be better. You are still early days and this is not easy at all.
Enjoy your gin!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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kazi67
Enjoy your Gin Jojo!! You deserve it!!
everyone on this forum is a warrior parent!!
its so very hard
sorry to hear the home visit didn’t go well
it does get better
last Mother’s Day I was sat in IP with my d who refused to come out of hospital at all and she cried the majority of my visit (I cried the whole hour drive home)I had brought tickets to a show that we didn’t go to 
so I understand how you are feeling 

its been a horrible year for us, 2 lengthy IP stays and 2 lengthy DP treatments but my d was recently discharged and this Mothers Day my d was home with me and we went out for lunch 🙂
have hope
Big hugs
keep feeding x
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needhelp
Happy Mother's Day to all you amazing Moms - who not only battle ED and love your children through incredible challenges - but also find the time to help support other moms going through this horrible battle.
I was looking at an entry I wrote about a year ago - Of course I only know Tina from here - but I wrote about how the fact that she asked about how my daughter was doing and always offered kind and solid advice (like so man y of you have over the last year plus) made me feel like I had a bond with her, and so many of you, and that I was not alone.  We have not shared my daughter's ED with anyone, as we felt it was her news to share - she is an adult.  So, having so many moms with whom I could communicate and also offer any suggestions that had/have worked for us.  Thank you for this forum, thank you for your concern and kind words, and thank you for being fabulous role models XO
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kazi67
Hi Needhelp
my d is an adult too, diagnosed at 17 but now officially an adult at 20! Yeah right lol
anyway just because our “kids” are “adults”
doesnt mean we don’t feel their pain and doesn’t make our journeys alongside with them any easier in fact it becomes more difficult as teams push you out 🙁
BUT who is there for them on their low days? US!!!
when in times of desperation I’ve contacted the “team” to be told “whatever your doing your doing a great job!” “Keep it up”
jeez thanks that’s helpful 

how is you d going needhelp? I hope things are improving 
One foot in front of the other one day at a time
my d will have 5 good days followed by a miserable night, then ok again, go figure 😳 
keep feeding everyone especially those who’s kids are still kids: under 18
it gets very interesting once they are older
anyway I hope all parents had a nice Mothers Day and if not just know you are your child’s angel and they WILL thank you one day ❤️
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