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Barberton

Last night I watched the Taylor Swift film, "Miss Americana". Whether you are a Taylor Swift fan or not, I don't care. I just found it interesting that about two-thirds into the film she so ever gently touches on the fact that she had/has an ED. I say, good on her.

Taylor spoke about what triggers her and how she 'changes the channel' on the radio in her head when she begins to feel triggered. The struggle and pain on her face said it all - recovery is not easy. 

I think it is important for young women and men to hear the truth from other women and men whom they look up to. And I apprciate that Ms Swift was respectful about how she told her own story. I told my 13 year old about the film and suggested that we watch it together some time.

Look at the trailer here.

I will also note here that actor Lily Collins wrote a good book a few years ago and in a non-triggering way told her story of recovery. It's helpful when you find someone who can tell their story without telling all the gory details, which I always worry will become a 'how-to' manual. 

D fell down the rabbit hole of AN at age 11 after difficulty swallowing followed by rapid weight loss. Progressing well through recovery, but still climbing our way out of the hole.
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mamabear
Agree. I found it to be really interesting and uplifting. I felt like a proud mom for Taylor finding herself as a woman. She did a good job talking about her ED but the film is not primarily focused on that. 
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
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ValentinaGermania
What I think is difficult about Lily Collins is that she acted for an AN film and lost a lot of weight for it ALTHOUGH she was a former ED patient and should have known better not to do that.
Please be careful with all these films, they can trigger your kids.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Barberton
ValentinaGermania I absolutely agree with you about Lily's movie. NO WAY will I EVER let my daughter watch it. Very triggering and I don't think the movie did anything to help anyone. This particular movie was no different to "recovered" AN who do TED talks and tell the audience their numbers. They are not recovered if they have to tell you their numbers. So yes, we all have to be very careful with what we recommend. But when we do find something that is gentle, non-triggering and has the potential to help, I think it's good to share.
D fell down the rabbit hole of AN at age 11 after difficulty swallowing followed by rapid weight loss. Progressing well through recovery, but still climbing our way out of the hole.
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ValentinaGermania
Barberton wrote:
So yes, we all have to be very careful with what we recommend. But when we do find something that is gentle, non-triggering and has the potential to help, I think it's good to share.


You are right with that, thanks for sharing.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Elinor
I watched this with both my kids. They had heard about the ED, so we agreed ahead of time that we would stop it and d would leave for that part. It happens in the middle, and you can tell it’s coming in enough time to grab the remote. She says she stopped eating, there is no diagnosis and no numbers, and there are red carpet images. The possibly triggering part lasts a few minutes, it’s clear when she moves on, and it is not mentioned directly again. The section about changing the station occurs after this but is non specific enough to be helpful not triggering (though I guess that’s very individual) S is a huge Taylor Swift fan and will no doubt be watching it again, so I’ll get him to note the minutes and post these. So why would I encourage watching this given potential triggers? Because it’s a seemingly honest story about growth from a girl needing to be a good girl praised by others, to a woman who knows what she needs and is able to ask for it, while letting go of the stuff which harms her. Particularly good for a sibling to see, even if not a big Taylor fan.
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Barberton
Thanks Elinor, that is brilliant. Good work.
D fell down the rabbit hole of AN at age 11 after difficulty swallowing followed by rapid weight loss. Progressing well through recovery, but still climbing our way out of the hole.
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NELLY_UK
Hi all, I haven’t seen the Taylor Swift film but here Freddie Flintoff the jack the lad, good looking cricketer confessed to his bulimia. So if it helps to know it’s not just girls for the boys and men out there search bbc iplayer for the interview. 
NELLY D 20 bulimic since age 12, diagnosed in 2011. 20 months useless CAMHs,7 months great IP, home March 14..... more useless CAMHs.now an adult & no MH services are involved. I reached the end of my tether, tied a knot in it and am hanging on. ED/Bulimia treatmentis in the dark ages in West Sussex.
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Barberton
Thanks NELLY_UK. I think the more interviews/movies/books we know about the better - good and bad - that help take the shame and secrecy off EDs, the better. And yes, boys are impacted too and need to hear from their role models as well.
D fell down the rabbit hole of AN at age 11 after difficulty swallowing followed by rapid weight loss. Progressing well through recovery, but still climbing our way out of the hole.
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