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ValentinaGermania
melstevUK wrote:

There is a huge anti medication lobby in the UK and a lot of people including psychiatrists who think that talking therapies can solve everything .I am not with that group but they are powerful and this is why at present the law favours the child I believe and the right to refuse. 


That is the same here I think. But in case parents insist on meds or with vacacination or chemotherapy it is the parents who have the say in Germany.
It is just another obstacle that is totally unnecessary for the parents in UK I think. In these few cases where meds work with ED patients should get them.

Great that your d trusted you with that and took the meds! Mine was never offered some so I do not know if she would have agreed to take them but I know I would have given them to her against her will if needed. There were so many things she refused and said she will never ever do again in the dark days and today we can laugh about that because she did them all again...🙂

I can imagine that you have no power to fight that. We can only hope that there will change something in future.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Ortho7

Hi Hendrixt 
our daughter is 13 and under CAMHS in the UK. She has been refeeding since July and is almost at goal weight. 

From day 1 she has been on medication. Started on Olazipine which helped make her feel hungry but didn’t make you become reliant. She is now being weaned off this and is on sertraline which she is doing well on and we have really noticed the change in her thoughts. The ED thoughts are still there but less and with family therapy she knows that they have to leave. 

we have a great psychiatrist who has been amazing and great team at CAMHS. We’ve been lucky. 

I hope the psychiatrist you see is half as good. Don’t be worried about medication it’s not forever and at least you will be having regular checks. 

hope this helps
ortho 7

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Hendrixt
Ortho7 wrote:

Hi Hendrixt 
our daughter is 13 and under CAMHS in the UK. She has been refeeding since July and is almost at goal weight. 

From day 1 she has been on medication. Started on Olazipine which helped make her feel hungry but didn’t make you become reliant. She is now being weaned off this and is on sertraline which she is doing well on and we have really noticed the change in her thoughts. The ED thoughts are still there but less and with family therapy she knows that they have to leave. 

we have a great psychiatrist who has been amazing and great team at CAMHS. We’ve been lucky. 

I hope the psychiatrist you see is half as good. Don’t be worried about medication it’s not forever and at least you will be having regular checks. 

hope this helps
ortho 7



Hi Ortho - well done with the re-feeding. We asked about Olanzipine but the Pysch said no as it was more aimed at patients with psychotic behaviour. Our D has been prescribed sertraline. I've just picked it up today and will start tomorrow as they have to have it in the morning. She's saying she doesn't want it bu we will work on that.. Really good that you have a good team to back you up. Was quite impressed with the Psych. We've been under CAHMS since May and it's the first time we've seen her.
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teecee
Some sufferers refuse because they see the meds as calories or that they don’t want to give their ‘friend’ up. My D refused to take natural herbal remedies for this reason. 
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Hendrixt
teecee wrote:
Some sufferers refuse because they see the meds as calories or that they don’t want to give their ‘friend’ up. My D refused to take natural herbal remedies for this reason. 


Her thinking’s not that sophisticated around calories etc so I don’t think that will be a problem. My wife is just trying to persuade to take her first tablet now as I type this. My stomach is churning 😬
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ValentinaGermania
I cross fingers that she takes it. Try to just expect her to do it like with fear food and hopefully it will get routine soon.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Hendrixt
Whoopee - she’s took the first tablet. Very reluctant at first but my wife skilfully persuaded her. Pointed out that the psychiatrist and therapist and 1,000s of other parents (on here) speak highly of the medication and how it can help her. 

Thanks to all for the advice and support 
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ValentinaGermania
Yeah! 👍 Another step done! Have a good weekend now!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Hendrixt
tina72 wrote:
Yeah! 👍 Another step done! Have a good weekend now!


thanks Tina - you too - it’s a massive relief 
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mjkz
My daughter knew meds were a must but absolutely refused any kind of supplements like vitamins or calcium, etc. because she saw those as healthy and they're weren't crossing her lips.  It didn't seem to have anything to do with calories but the whole concept of "healthy".  😕
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deenl
So thrilled that she took the meds. Fingers crossed that they suit her and make life easier for all of you. 

Warm wishes 

D
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
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Hendrixt
deenl wrote:
So thrilled that she took the meds. Fingers crossed that they suit her and make life easier for all of you. 

Warm wishes 

D


Thanks Daneel. We’re very relieved. She’s said she wouldn’t take them. She won’t engage in therapy so thought we would be going down the same route of resistance with the meds but turn out well in the end. 
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