AN has won!
my d doesn’t seem to want to get better
and I’m over it I’ve lost hope actually
I’m feeling as confused as when my d first became ill 4 years ago
(I was under a different name and changed as I was worried d had discovered the forum)
I have just read on another thread that FBT is not the preferred treatment if a patient is suicidal or SH
this is the first time I have heard anyone mention this and yet I did have these issues with my d and expressed here on the forum
we were not under any professional help at that stage and constantly got told to feed feed feed (which I did) in the first 6 months
I took time off work, I cooked and cooked and cooked and sat with her hours on end
calming her when she was depressed/suicidal and self harming
then.........she relapsed BIG TIME
we finally had professional services by this stage she was on deaths doorstep
last 3 years in and out of hospital IP
then day program IOP
then OP (Still in treatment)
our d AN has sucked EVERYTHING out of our family) our happiness, peace of mind, social life and friendships, (not to mention financially crippling us) and we have all given up on her
I know, bad me! But
im sick of the stress, lies, never knowing what to believe coming out of her mouth,
The mind games and BS, we have given her our EVERYTHING!
Time, compassion, love, kittens, puppies you name we have tried it
ive cied an ocean of tears I’ve got up day after day for 4 years put on a happy face and I am over it
Maybe we did it wrong?
maybe I forced too much food into her too quick but I was advised to do this
now I read if your kid suicidal, or self harming not FBT (or a version of it with no professional help as the wait list was 6 months!!!!)
warning for newbies PLEASE INSIST ON REFERRING TO PROFESSIONAL SERVICES IF YOUR KID IS DEPRESSED, SUICIDAL OR SELF HARMING
I got told time and time again it is part and parcel of AN, it’s normal just keep feeding
now I wonder if I did more harm then good????
after all this I’m tired of it all
my d now sleeps all day up all night
I don’t know what to do anymore and I always upset someone on the forum so I’m sorry about that too
good luck to all and sorry for miserable and negative post but apparently i am allowed to vent here?
all the best to you all and I wish all you and your loved ones suffering this miserable illness to get better soon