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My daughter (16.5, diagnosed at ten with AN in recovery now 3 plus years) posted this on Instagram after the New Year:

" Even though 2016 has had some major setbacks *cough*Trump*cough*, my year has been filled with love and happiness. Finding true friends that I am grateful for every day , and have truly made me a better me. Getting close with my sister again and honestly it makes me cry just Thinking about how lucky I am to have a sister and best friend like her. Finding who I am and finally not being afraid to be myself even if it doesn't " fit in". Learning about relationships and how you should never stop letting someone know how much you care. Appreciating my family and realizing how much love I have for them. Finding more ways to express my feelings like writing more songs and painting. And all in all just truly trying so hard to appreciate life and my friends and find who I am and figure out who I want to be. It's been a roller coaster this year, but 2017 is going to be great and I'm so excited to push myself in life and to learn more about myself and the universe every day! Happy new year everyone!

Keep feeding. Keep going. Keep hoping! It is all worth it.
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
Truly a beautiful, inspiring message from your sweet girl.  Thanks for sharing, and all the best to you & family in 2017!
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
[love]  Love this!  Thanks for sharing mamabear!

"Lineage, personality and environment may shape you, but they do not define your full potential."    Mollie Marti  


15 yr old d diagnosed with AN late December 2015 at the age of 12 after a 23 lb weight loss during prior 3 months. Started FBT/Maudsley at home on Christmas Eve with support from amazing local nutritionist specializing in ED and trained in FBT. WR Feb 2016 and pushing our way through puberty and rapid growth.
so great to see this update! Well done mamabear..and Happy NEW Year.
Son diagnosed @ 12.5 yrs old with Severe RAN 2/11. Co-morbids - anxiety, Active restriction for 3 months. He stopped eating completely 2x. He needed immediate, aggressive treatment from a provider who specialized in eating disorders, adolescents and males. We got that at Kartini Clinic. WR since 5/11. 2017 getting ready to graduate slipping lost 8lbs. Fighting our way back.
Dear mamabear,

Thanks for your post it is great to be out the other side.

Our D was first diagnosed at 16. Six years of various in-patient, out patient, day patient & local phsychology then at 21 just as she finished her university study with a distiction bachelors degree in business Human Relations & Industrial Relations (IR/HR) relapsed big time. Thats when we started a different treatment way that included us as parents as part of the solution. Now at 28 our D is of all professions for some with a AN experience that nearly took her life on two occasions running her own business as personal fitness trainer, BUT an oh so different personal trainer & the opposite of the A typical personal trainers.

Here is a post from our D's business face book page

I put my bikini on, went out and was a girl on the beach. A girl, on the beach, in the sun with her body in all its fabulous imperfectness.

It took me long, long, looooong time to get to this point but after lots of hard work here I am. And I love it! I don't spend time on the beach with anxiety about how I look, instead I enjoy each and every moment that I am by the water. Do the hard work to love yourself, it is WORTH EVERYTHING!♡

ED Dad
Mamabear, I love reading every update you write here.  I'm so happy to hear that your daughter is doing so well. You are an inspiration to everyone here.

Also, to everyone frustrated with ED rages right now, read again all those wonderful things that Mamabear's lovely daughter said about her family.  During the height of the ED rages, I thought my relationship with my daughter would be destroyed forever.  So not true.  It's a brain chemistry problem, and it's ED fighting back, because you're the enemy, but it won't destroy your relationship forever.

Reading this made me really happy, Mamabear.

The Irish tell the story of a man who arrives at the gates of Heaven and asks to be let in.  St. Peter says, “Of course. Show us your scars.”  But the man replies, “I have no scars.”   St. Peter shakes his head and says, “What a pity. Was there nothing worth fighting for?”