Thank you all for your quick responses. Yes sorry about height! In the mix having not grown for 2 years I think she has perhaps grown a little. Which could account for some of the weight loss?
She was a compulsive exerciser when in the thick of it, in toilets waving her arms about, had to look under doors when out, eventually no going to loo on own! She would never sit, so we had to fight our way through that. The compulsive leg shake.
Lockdown has had a massive impact on us. We couldn’t get lots of her usual food at first and of course we can’t go out to eat. So I feel a lot of the things we could have done will be a struggle not get back in, for example we went out for cake and coffee at least once a week. We went out for lunch a couple of times. To help her know what was a good snack or lunch to buy when out with friends. we are in Scotland so restaurants and cafes only just opened. However being in the high risk group (Asthma)we haven’t rushed out yet. She is starting to see friends again but they are all now just going for walks as nothing is open.
the yoga is helping so much with her injury. Can walk more steps off the crutch etc.
she still eats more or less to a meal plan, would never have a pudding unless forced.
I would say in my heart she never been recovered but in a recovery sort of mode. When CAMHS discharged us for ED they said they could do more we just had to go a live our lives and keep watch. She never discussed ED and still glares at me if I try and talk about it. So it’s hard to have the conversation and you have to pick the right time.
We have been slipping in the dry food only ( hates a sauce) but I still serve that. But we are definitely slipping in the variety. I have always plated and cooked. On occasion she has cooked with me and I watch the plating and I always have to say take more. So we hadn’t progressed greatly with that to some extent. We have been cooking more together in lockdown but she always wants to make noodles! She’s vegetarian hence she’s cooking with me as I cook meat version.
I try to talk to her about wise choices when it comes to food and she agrees but doesn’t seem to be able to when push comes to shove.
Your right I do need her weighed. Physio therapy for her injury will start soon so I could get height and weight done then. Or bite the bullet and tell her she needs gp appointment for check up.
when very she was very ill she was on bed rest for months as she had heart problems, fainting all time due to bp. Was having her heart monitored bi weekly and at one point every day when IP.
H had a “chat” with her last night about that he thinks she’s only happy when exercising ie chatty on a walk and chatty after yoga but miserable in between. But he said she just glared at him in response. A lot of the glaring I’m guessing is normal teenage behaviour.
I just want her to be better understand the warning signs and be able to manage them or ask for help. I’m at a loss on knowing how to do that.
She has hopes and dreams for uni, trips abroad etc which puts terror in me wondering how she will manage.
I’m rambling a bit now, but good to get it off my chest. People notice the weight loss but also grandparents thought she was a ‘good’ weight anyway and could loose a few pounds! but they have never understood it and are weight obsessed. In fact having driven me slightly mad over the years! With the you don’t need lunch if you have had a big breakfast nonsense!