Lots of great comments on this post.
@Torie I wanted to address your question to me about my comment.
My opinion was always that food alone was not enough to recover from anorexia, (even though I believe that there is no possibility of recovery without also normalizing eating),
I look at treatment, recovery and remission in a holistic manner which can be defined like this:
Characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than just the symptoms of a disease.
So for example, in addition to refeeding and having adequate nutrition, we accessed support in other therapeutic ways to help her process what she had been through and also to try and move forward and heal our family. We had self harm, purging, suicidal ideation, an exercise compulsion, food refusal and a weight completely off the bottom of the growth chart to work through which is quite a big project and involves a very multifaceted recovery. We had help from an FBT therapist, individual therapists, psychiatrists, social workers, dietitians, MD's specializing in eating disorders, CBT, a family DBT group, REACH therapy, medication, Residential, IOP, and PHP. In addition once she started eating again we also had 3 meals a and 2 snacks a day and eating became non negotiable. It truly took a village and I am thankful to each and every person, including you, who helped us in any way. I truly believe my daughters recovery wasn't something I could have done on my own at home just with food because her illness was, like so many others, complicated and also involves comorbid depression which did not go away after weight restoration. In addition to that we worked with our d. to try and identify goals for things she might like to do and have in her life if she were well. Creating a life worth living as they say in DBT. And then we helped her make concrete plans to achieve those goals and cheered her on every step of the way.
Hope this explains what I was thinking when I made that comment.