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yellowcaty

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Thank you for your kind words.

Kali- it also made me cry. It is definitely not the kind of parenting I expected to be doing. As many others have said on the forum, up until ED raised its head she was a happy, compliment child that very rarely did anything wrong. Our relationship has changed so much over the last 6 months (probably a lot longer if I’m honest) and I have to hold on to all the positive stories on here that I will get her back.

I’ve just phoned the unit and have spoken to her. She is very down and has been on bed rest all day, so has only had contact with the staff. She barely wanted to talk to me and just said she was too tired.

She is already on 1 to 1 supervision all day and night and does not have any bathroom privacy, so it would be incredibly difficult for her to purge. She is on a reduced food plan, but they have upped fluid intake today. I think after being sick at least 42 times a week, for who knows how many months, her body has probably gone cold turkey. I am still finding bottles of sick whilst sorting out her room, so the problem was obviously even bigger than we realised, which seems impossible to believe.

Quite nervous about first visit tomorrow!!!
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yellowcaty,
I hope the visit goes well tomorrow. They seem to be supervising her very well, and hopefully that can help stop the purging. 
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Oh dang, YC, I'm so sorry for all the upheaval and scary times.  Even more, though, I'm glad she is getting the care she needs.  I agree with Tina that you need to take care of yourself as best you can because your d needs you to maintain your strength.  

With you in spirit. xx

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What a couple of days. But it does sounds as though the unit has totally got the measure of things. Hope the visit goes well.

Like Torie, with you in spirit. X
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You are an amazing strong mama Yellowcaty! It sounds like the unit team are really in tune and have everything under control, they also seem caring. Good luck with your visit tomorrow!

Sending hugs. x

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Hi yellowcaty,

"As many others have said on the forum, up until ED raised its head she was a happy, compliment child that very rarely did anything wrong. Our relationship has changed so much over the last 6 months (probably a lot longer if I’m honest) and I have to hold on to all the positive stories on here that I will get her back."

I promise you that you will get that happy, compliment child back when the AN is put down. I did not believe that, too, in early days, but the proof is walking around in my house now. Try to be a little patient and give time a chance to help you both recover from that. She will come back. And your realtionship will be as good as before AN came around. Try to believe in that.

I hope you can see her today and that she is better. AN will be very angry but her physical state will be better.
I think at you the whole day. Try to keep swimming.

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I think at you the whole day.


Tina, I love that!  In English, we normally say, "I think of you," but thinking at someone sounds so much more ... active, intense, and determined.  I think we really do think at each other here!

Hang in there, YC.  Thinking at you. xx

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Well... She is back in a general hospital. She has been sleepy and confused ever since her banging her head in A&E the other night. So we didn’t get a normal visit, but watched her sleep in A&E. They have admitted her and she will stay overnight. I have just left, but one of her own hospital staff is with her all night. The poor child hasn’t even had time to settle in yet.

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oh yellowcaty,
I am so sorry. I really hope things get better soon.
Sending warm support. 
Thinking of you.
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Oh dear, it seems as the it is one thing after another. 
Are they making sure that her food intake continues too? Sometimes these transitions allow for that to get worse too.

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