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Does anyone else have a Dd or Ds who have Instagram accounts for their recovery where they pictures of their food and quotes etc . I just found of Dd has one and I do not know whether to be concerned or not. Despite it being totally hypocritical as she writes about being fully invested in recovery on the account which is NOT currently the case - I just don’t see how it could be helpful and I’m concerned it may actually be harmful in some aspects. Does anyone have experience of this ?

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There are numerous recovery accounts out there on instagram, pinterest, tumblr along with multiple blogs. 
How helpful they are I think is difficult to judge. Of those I have looked at there is often an "ED view" of food with respect to calories and food types, but I also think that the people with the account do often genuinely want to recover. My D did run one such account for a while on tumblr. I did not feel it was harmful but also not helpful. She was very deep in her eating disorder at the time, and I think she did get a lot of support from others with eating disorders who acknowledged the day to day struggles. Her accounts on that page were also suggestive of someone working much harder at recovery than what I was seeing at home - I think more "talking the talk" than "walking the walk". She gave up in the end as it was too much hassle to maintain. 

D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.

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Hi there I can relate to this as well, I think my d had a recovery blog and a recovery instagram account. Same deal, she talked a lot of talk and was only recovered in the sense that she was no longer on deaths door and was eating independently v small amounts of safe foods. 
We were also silly enough to let a documentary be filmed on her here at the end of last year, we thought it might help others and were sort of talked into by the producer and d of course. It comes out in early May. That was at least 6 kg's ago, we did make it clear at the time that she was not recovered but I could tell the 'storyline' was along those lines.
Anyway I don't think those accounts did any real harm but the thinking is scary. D has no social media accounts at all now, by her own choosing, and I'm proud of her for this.

17 yr old daughter dx RAN Jan 16, but starting restricting some months before that. Let go too early and now back home gaining weight again, slowly challenging fear foods and entrenched 'healthy, pure' eating habits and behaviours.

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I think all these things have one same problem:

they think about ED and talk about ED with others
they post pictures that are figure-related or food-related
they have contact with other sufferers which can be triggering

Be aware that it might change quickly into a competition around BMI and so on.

It might not stop or slow down recovery but it will also not help with that.

Your aim is that she does not think any more about ED, food, figure.
That she just comes in and eats something and then leaves again with her friends, like other teenagers would do.
I would not stop it radically, but I would watch it carefully.

d off to University now 22 months after diagnose, still doing FBT and relapse prevention 

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I think I would have to agree with Tina because I found that the more my D did that had nothing to do with ED- the more she was able to leave ED behind. If she likes to do all that social media stuff, maybe she could be encouraged to form a blog (or whatever) about a non-ED interest? Maybe she could watch and discuss movies, or discuss books, or if she has a cause that interests her ( if she is artistic maybe she could encourage others to make cards for soldiers, or people in nursing homes,etc). I guess my thought is that if she could find others that share a passion or hobby her interactions wouldn’t involve food- and could lead to something post ED. I’m not technical- so I admire your daughter’s drive to technically reach out to others.

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My D found that having an Insta account fueled the AN. The lovely comments she received encouraged the AN to maintain the grip. She got rid of it early on and stays away from posting images of herself or food.
We found this was a positive...she maintains contact with friends in other ways.
She has quotes on her bedroom wall and maintains a journal (onto third one!)...she can choose to share the content or not whenever she wants and to who ever she wants.
You are right to be vigilant.
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