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This came up on my feed today and it resonated

That is lovely, Ronson.

Thank you for sharing.

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
I needed this today 💕
How are things teecee ?
Hi Ronson, things with D are improving. She recently went away for 3 nights on the NCS course she gave backword on in the summer. She had a great time and continues to make new friends. She seems to be enjoying life again.
Me on the other hand...that’s a different story. I’ve burnt out with the ‘doing’ and ‘worrying’ which I’m sad about as it just crept up on me. I thought getting back to work would get life back to ‘normal’ but it’s just depleted the energy stores I had. I’m now on empty and having to work twice as hard on getting that back, which is frustrating. I just need ‘me time’ I think. How are you? Xx

I’m so pleased your d is doing so well but sorry to hear you are not doing so well.

I think you definitely need some me time - I think when we are in the midst of it all we are so busy firefighting we don’t have time for thinking of ourselves and when it eases off it hits us. You take care and do something lovely for yourself - take time to self care.

I’m ok - we have hit a new normal - d eats and is maintaining and gaining weight - her mood is stable and she is socialising well but she is still not eating intuitively. I know it’s early days but it makes me hugely sad. I worry about our future a lot. Life feels kind of normal but I know that we avoid doing some stuff which would rock the boat. I also know there are some things we should push but I feel I don’t have the strength just now.

Sorry that was a bit of a ramble.

Take care - spoil yourself today x
Yes I’m trying to do one self care thing a day and taking it one day at a time.
The initiative eating will happen just hang in there. Yes worrying about the future is what gets me too. I really have to stop doing that and just live in the moment. It’s so hard. I think we all avoid things when we don’t feel we have the strength. I know I have. We are Hunan after all. There’s no such thing as a perfect linear recovery...it’s ugly with lots of ups and downs. I’m in awe of people who deal with it without their own mental health suffering.
You have nothing to be sorry about...if you can’t sound off here where can you sound off... 😊

You take care too and think about yourself for a change. Xxx
Hi ronson,
thanks for sharing that. It is so true.

I am still feeling the same as you. I am so powerless on some days and still suffering from some carer burnout sometimes. It is not easy to go back to normal. I am glad that I do not need to work so much so I can have a nap now and then (not daily any more, but surely twice a week). Please take care for yourself.
It is so great to hear that your d is doing well and socialising again. You did a really good job.

Ronson, I know these days when you think about all the what ifs. And I am also sad about no intuitive eating here at the moment (although I seem to see some glimpses of it now and then, but I do not dare to believe them). On these days when I am so sad about what happened I try to look back what we have already achieved and to mirror this time and achievement to the future. That helps a bit.

I hope you all have a nice weekend.
I send you some huge hugs.

Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Thank you Tina I really appreciate your kind words. I hope you have a lovely weekend too. Xxx