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GMM
hi,

son has agreed to be treated as an inpatient. 

Do any any of you guys have any experience they could share on what we can expect. I have checked out the unit on-line and I do think it’s the right thing, but there is always a fear of the unknown. 

He is on a waiting list so we don’t know when. 

The unit it is in the west of Scotland.  

Thanks for all your support on this.  It has helped me so much already 

GMM
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tina72
Hi GMM,

I cannot speak for british units but in some parts it is all over the world the same.
You can expect they will have fix rules about meal times, supervision and bathroom privacy. They will not allow him to exercise or even to be out in the first time. A professional team should work with you together, answer all your questions and tell you you are an important part of his recovery. They will teach you how to supervise his meals and get him to eat at home.
If possible ask for blind weighing. Some IP refuse to do that and some let you negotiate about that. Do not negotiate that with him.

Be aware that ED will not want to stay there and your son will beg you in tears to take him home again. That is hard but you need to get through that. It is needed and he is safe there and he must learn to eat again. This is your mantra if he begs for that.

Reload your batteries when he is there and prepare your home to be run like an additional IP unit when he comes home again. There more rules from IP you can take home the easier trasition will be. Prepare yourself and learn and have a plan A,B,C.
Come here to ask and to vent if needed. I know there are some Scottish parents around so maybe you will get some more information about that special unit soon.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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GMM
Thanks Tina.  

I don’t actually live in the same house as my son, but so live in the same building.  However, your comments make perfect sense and I do know this is definitely for the best.  
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tina72
Sorry, I forgot how old he is. Nevertheless, you can help him now in treatment and you can help him when he is back. And you can prepare his flat by taking away mirrors and door locks for example no matter how old he is. Safety comes first.
And you can help him with a plan to stick to the IP rules at home.
What I said about IP will not be much different no matter what age. Adult IPs are quite the same.
And he will beg you to take him home, also no matter how old he is. Be prepared for that.
It is for sure the best.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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GMM
Sorry, I should have been a little clearer. He has just turned 17 and he stays with his mum and sister.  Mirrors have been removed from his areas, and there is only s lock on the bathroom door, which he doesn’t lock.  His sister is 14, so we need to balance everything with her needs also.

the inpatient ward is for adolescents up to 18 years old.  

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tina72
Ah ok. Now I know. So if he is not legally adult at the moment try to get him into the best state possible until then so he will not use his legal rights to refuse treatment then. My d went IP 5 days after her 17th birthday and the great parents here told me to lose no time and get her in best state possible before she turned 18 and she was WR 6 months before and her brain recovery started 2 months before and at her 18th birthday she was compliant with us helping her to eat and did see she is ill and needs help and that changed everything for us.

So nice to have another dad around here! Please come back to ask and send his mom here if needed, this forum is a great help and a lifesaver not only for the kids 🙂.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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GMM
Thanks Tina. 
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