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D was readmitted to paed ward yesterday to regulate blood pressure and pulse (still waiting for specialist inpatient bed to come available). I've been off work since the start of the year as d is not in school and h had crumbled under the pressure. So imagine my joy and surprise when my employer decided to fund a private CBT therapist FOR ME! To try to support me during this extremely difficult time! I was sooo moved by their thoughtfulness! And it was great to spend 2 hours with this woman today and talk about MY anxiety, MY depression and MY need to be compassionate with myself.

I have a regular weekly session booked in with her for the next 8 weeks. I feel so relieved as I thought I was going to go mad!
That is fabulous in so many ways! Congrats!
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
That is fantastic. I called today to schedule my own appointment too. I need help to figure out how in the world to function right now. Good luck to you!

20 AN D- dx at age 14 2010, IP, FBT, Individual therapy, medication for anxiety and depression. Currently relapsed: anorexia, bulimia, cutting, excessive exercising, abusing diet pills...
This is so valuable and wonderful!

Son 9yrs when he became unwell 2013, ED slide from April 2014, dx at 10yrs July 2014, 2 hospitalisations - dx so many times Behavioural Anorexia, EDNOS, ARFID. FBT from August 2014. Anxiety, Emetophobia. 13.5yrs old now! In recovery, gets better every day with constant vigilance, life returns.
Really pleased for you! I've been pretty lucky too.  My old boss used to fill in for me at work while I talked to the work therapist!  It seems that we are going through so much that we often need more than just coffee and a chat with friends, and we don't have to feel guilty when we just let it all out to a professional.  

Pipes,  what a thoughtful employer you have! [thumb] 

UK - South East

19 yo D

Dx AN Feb 2015 (Aged 15). Pre-existing low self-esteen and high anxiety. 

2015: 3 x medical hospital admissions. 1 month in IP which she self discharged from [eek].
2016: 3 x hospital admissions. 
2017: CAMHS CBT. WR, dropped out of 2 different colleges and started an apprenticeship.  Started having grand mal seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy in Nov 2017. Sacked from job because of this.  Tribunal ensued.
2018 - doing a Psychology degree through Open University and working in retail to pay her way in life. Relapses with eating disorder in June 18 and Nov 18 😢. 

On particularly rough days when I am sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good. [Author Unknown]
great employer and well deserved

hope it helps lots x

Amazing! So glad your employer recognizes the need to care for the caregiver!