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Hendrixt
tina72 wrote:


I think that is an important note by Ellesmum, it worked best here when ALL at the table ate the same. So no different plate for ED person.
To give you an idea of portion sizes, my d eats mostly the same as hubby 🙂. Without gaining any weight now as she is grown out (19).


Yes, we’ve got a good start with 6 meals a day but now we’re learning fast what a huge amount of food is needed to make a difference. She’s now eating more than she ever did before ED came (she has always been on the skin side) but it’s clear she needs much more. I had already read about this right from the start but when you’re doing it you realise how hard it is. We do all eat together for the evening meal and all meals at the weekend. Mostly we eat the same meals. 
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Hendrixt
[QUOTE username=debra18 userid=5837419 postid=1308827658]I did have some sort of meal plan with my daughter, gave her options of two equivalent choices and told her when I would increase food. Laura Hill has an interesting video on YouTube about the noise in their head and how meal plans and predictably helps reduce the noise. I know everyone had different experiences with this. For snack my daughter knows she has to take two items. Breakfast and dinner she had high calorie drinks. You can add many things into milkshakes and smoothies .I was honest with my daughter and I told her I would be adding more toppings so she wouldn't have to eat more. It was a statement and there was no room for negotiation.

Hi Debra - I’ve seen the video, it’s scary and upsetting to hear the voice. I know my D does have a voice and I always have that noise running through my head when she’s having a difficult meal. We’ve been adding all sorts to smoothies but not discussing this with her. If we asked we would tell her  but we try to avoid conversations about ingredients at the moment. 
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ValentinaGermania
I would also avoid all talk about ingredients. When my d asked what was in there I replied with "what is in the recipe" or "I am 46, I know how to make mashed potatoes" or "what was in there yesterday". All no lies but no answers for AN.

This voice was also very powerful here and it was a game changer for my d (she said that recently) to be able to tell that voice that all the eating is not her fault as "mum and dad make me eat it". When she could blame us for all intake and portion sizes etc. she could eat.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Hendrixt
That’s a good reply Tina. I agree it’s really useful to be aware of the internal conflict and that these conversations are often giving D an excuse to give to the ED.
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Enn
Hi Hendrixt,
How is it going?
all the best,
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Hendrixt
scaredmom wrote:
Hi Hendrixt,
How is it going?
all the best,


hi scaredmom thanks for asking. We’re carrying on with slow but sure progress. Meals are gradually getting easier with fewer melt downs and we’ve managed to keep D in school with lots of trips there and back but teachers have been very helpful. We’ve had weight gains over the last 3 weeks and starting to bring in some ‘fear foods’. Lots of encouragement and support on this site which makes a massive difference. 
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Enn
This is good stuff Hendrixt! 
I am pleased for you all! 
Thanks for the update.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Hendrixt
scaredmom wrote:
This is good stuff Hendrixt! 
I am pleased for you all! 
Thanks for the update.


thank you 
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