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Nicstar4

It has been a while. RAN daughter got through final of school year, with another hospital stay 2 weeks before final exams, this time on the general adolescent ward. Recovery is going strong for about a year now. Alert but not alarmed.
NOW her twin has developed restrictive ED. Asked me for help. Does not live home any more went to dads as closer to uni, which then went online. Wants to move back. ALSO son binge eating increased. So 3 out of 4 with diagnosed ED! 

so I thought I would pop back, as I know I will need support through the acute phases again.

I hope it will not be as scary and intense, as dietician and specialist appointments are all set, and I know where to go for help, and have a ton of experiential knowledge over the last 5 years....

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LaraB

Hi @Nicstar4 sorry you have to find your way back. You have a lot on your plate, and I am sorry that your other D has developed AN. Really great that she has asked you for help. I know everyone here will want to support you.  Obviously you have lots of experience already so you know what you need to do and you know you can do it. I hope you have some support around you as well on the ground because you have a lot to deal with. 

Sending you a hug. 

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Enn

Well hello there! I feel badly about what is going on right now for you. We are here  for whatever you need.  

Sending strength your way!

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Foodsupport_AUS
Sorry that you have to be here again, but yes all that experience does count for something. At least you are not starting from scratch with learning about ED. I am sure you will get through again. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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MKR
What a challenge! 

Can you get the twin back to stay with you and put on the regime of 3-hourly meals/ snacks (and nothing in between) for both her and your son?

I am sending you lots of strength and determination to sail this ship to safety. You have good skills

I have limited experience of 2 weeks having both of these cases with me 24/7 and to my great surprise the structured meals did their magic. But then again, we were out and about, on holiday.

I am sending you lots of strength and determination to sail this ship to safety! You have good skills.
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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Nicstar4
Thanks for the reply. Bracing myself for the hard work again. Son reluctant to follow any guidelines, so hoping meal plan from dietician will help. Trying to use d’s old meal plan for son and other d, and trying to get d back home sooner rather than later. She spends most of the time with her boyfriend, so will have to get him involved too. Anxiety feeling settling back into my stomach again...
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LaraB
Hi, of course you are anxious. It sounds good if boyfriend can support your D. Could you do some bulk buying, cooking for freezer or buying prepared food to help with all the food prep.? Xx
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Enn
Nicstar4, 
I am wishing you well. Remember that until you put on your shoes, you cannot take the first step. I can understand how stressful this is. I would be very anxious as well. Take it one day at a time. You have the knowledge and experience and now it is time to take it to action. We are here to cheer you on and support you. Having a good team next to you as well will be crucial.
Sending my best.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Nicstar4

Update, went to dr today and daughter has lost 5kg in 8 weeks, and total 8kg in 8 months. She said she is exercising in her room and sometimes only eating 1 meal and avoids the kitchen in the day. Her dad and stepmum don’t know she is struggling, and she does not want to tell them, as they dealt with her twin when she was very unwell, so badly.
I have told her she can move home in a heartbeat, but she is worried she will trigger her twin into relapse.
on the upside. Got a care plan for subsidized dietician. Put on waitlist for psychologist and tomorrow am going to put on waitlist for psychiatrist.
dr put her on anti anxiety meds.
son got a care plan for subsidized dietician too, and gp aware of his binge eating now. 
Dietician for both of them on Tuesday. Meanwhile, other daughter going well, and passed her driving test this week. So one more step of independence for her. Happy moments mixed with sad ones...

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melstevUK
Nicstar4,

I simply cannot imagine what you are going through. So very unfair to have three affected children. Just sending warmest hugs.  You have already been so organised and have plans in place and you know what you are doing. 
You will get through this. Full of admiration for you. 
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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