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rixi Show full post »

mimi321 - I am doing the same - write down the food she eats every day to see the progress. I truly feel that only parents know the best, especially moms, (I am not saying dads do not know, just moms are heavily involved in terms of food preparation. Salute to all the dads who prepare the food!)

How often do you weight your kid? It is better not to let the kid know the weight, isn't it?

This is a stage in your life, this is NOT your life.

Regarding blind or open weighing tends to be a common discussion here. I would suggest, if you are interested to look up a recent thread about blind or open weighing.
At the beginning my D was weighed every week. Once she got to about 6 months into it, then it was once per 2-3 weeks, then once per month, now every two months since the summer months. We do blind weights and D never has asked her weight, just if she is doing OK and I always say "yes you are doing fine" no matter what the weight is. She seems comfortable with that. 

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
I seem to be late to the party here, but I wanted to say I always required my d to finish every last bite and sip.  It is quite common for parents to report that a small bite left on the plate turns into a medium bite turns into a large bite, turns into all out war.  I decided it was safest to require 100% compliance even though I do think it is somewhat disordered eating to always finish every last bit.  xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
I didn't have a therapist or nutritionist. I only used the pediatrician for medical monitoring. I focused on behaviors that affected weight gain. Most other behaviors went away on their own or with mild intervention. I have two behaviors left to work on, standing and finishing the last sip. She started sitting and the standing is much less now. She also used to always leave one bite of everything and that's getting better too. It's only her shakes that she leaves something over. I don't think it's possible to stop all behaviors at once. But that's my opinion.
Hi rixi
Lots advice about this but thought I would share my experience. A bit of leeway evolved into d getting to point of ‘spilling’ at least half of food. In desperation I doubled food but it was stupidity. It became Ed’s form of restriction. One day when I asked her to eat some of this it triggered a massive reaction. This was awful at time but led me to require all food eaten. I think that we as parents can see what is a normal crumb or spilling and what is deliberate.My d had never been a messy eater.
I think you should trust your instincts
Take care
I never felt the need for a dietitian.  The only use I would have had for one was in communication: It would have been nice to have had a professional who would privately ask me what my d needed to hear and then deliver that message.  In other words, I didn't need help planning meals (as I had fed my d and her sibs their whole lives) - it just would have been kinda nice for a professional to tell my d she needed to eat x,y,z ... with x,y,z being up to me to decide.  xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP