We finally had some decent weather here and it is beautiful outside. We took our D out this weekend - A walk for a cause on Saturday and a stroll in a festival. Yet ED crept in. She almost did not eat dinner on Saturday(she claimed that she does not like the food from the vendors on site) or lunch (2 dumplings and two spoonfuls of pulled pork) on Sunday. I was astonished to find that she even lost 3 lbs during the past week.
I was very upset before dinner on Sunday and urged her to eat a big dinner, and we had conflicts. During that time, I could not think anything else except the fact that she did not eat well during the past two days and she started to starve her again. I could not keep my anger down and finally, let it out. I drove my car to a parking lot and cried straight for 30 minutes. I felt helpless and blamed myself for not being able to help her. I am also very guilty of my anger towards her. I am very ashamed of myself afterward.
My D accused me of not leading by example. She confronted me by asking how come I don't eat as much as she does. Both of us said a lot which we probably regret now.
How do I differentiate the disease from her?
How do I push her to eat in a way that she can accept and I don't lose my mind?
She failed the first week of our plan (at least one lb weight gain per two weeks), and we had to confiscate her phone until her weight is gained till the level we all agreed. I understand the confiscation of her phone is a leverage, but it looks like we don't have any other way.
This is a stage in your life, this is NOT your life.