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dailystruggle

We were getting ready for church tonight. Our d put her jeans on and I swear they are tighter( Maybe my mind is playing tricks on me), but I saw her face and it was not happy.  She has done great for about 3 days but tonight we had a meltdown over salmon.   The clothes will be getting tighter especially jeans. How do you handle this?

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YogurtParfait_US
I have more larger sizes of clothes ready for my daughter.

I also got her knit pants.

Too tight ones just disappear!

Of course, my daughter is very little ... I'm sure those with teens will chime in soon!

YP
"Hope is a wonderful thing ... but hope by itself is not enough. Hope is the reason to take action, to make a plan and then to change the plan when it isn’t working - over and over and over again if necessary." Hannah Joseph (Let's Feast Friday Reflection, "Just Keep Going," Friday, March 3rd, 2015)
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AnnieK_USA
Some previous threads on this subject that I found via the Search function:

Dealing with outgrown clothes

clothes

the ongoing issue of clothes
Daughter age 28, restrictive anorexia (RAN) age 11-18, then alternating RAN with binge eating disorder and bulimia with laxatives, is in remission from EDs for 3 years after finally finding effective individual therapy. Treatment continues for comorbid disorders of anxiety, ADD and depression. "Perseverance, secret of all triumphs." Victor Hugo
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lovefood
I will never forget the pair of size 0 skinny jeans that came flying across the room and hit me in the back of the head!  My d was so mad at me that they didn't fit anymore and all I could think of was how glad I was going to be to get rid of that ridiculously small size of pants!  I refused to even donate them - I would have loved to have burned them.  We handled each size-up with going out and letting her buy whatever she wanted. She hated the shopping at first but liked the fact that I was letting her shop at stores we normally avoided because they were too expensive.   I imagine it is just too painful for some girls to go out and try on larger pants.  We did have a lot of tears in the beginning (and an enormous amount of $ spent) but it did get better.  I remember some people saying they would buy identical jeans in different sizes and then switch them out with size tags removed.  My daughter always needed to see the tag so didn't work for us.  Stretch jeans and leggings under skirts are great.  Eventually when her weight was higher she ended up having a pair of jeans rip when she sat down.  We all held our breath in horror, afraid to react but then she laughed and said that "Hey, my butt just made my pants explode!"  and I knew she was getting better.
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Norah_US
My daughter has always preferred to shop at vintage stores, thrift shops and consignment stores rather than typical retail shops. The advantage of this is that the sizes are wildly inconsistent, so she doesn't have a consistent sense of what size she wears. I did remove labels from her pants and added a few "new to her" pairs in larger sizes, as well as some stretchy yoga pants and sweat pants. While she will eventually have to get used to wearing a larger size, I figure we can deal with that issue once she is fully WR. 
Daughter dx at age 14 with AN and depression. Currently 19 and experiencing a relapse.
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Shazl
I bought my daughter bigger clothes and told her I will bring to the Hospital for her.  Her reply was that if it is not size 9 to 10 than she will send them back. I had to buy clothes 11 to 12 years old because she has put on weight.

How do I get her to wear these clothes?

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mnmomUSA
Shazl wrote:
I bought my daughter bigger clothes and told her I will bring to the Hospital for her.  Her reply was that if it is not size 9 to 10 than she will send them back. I had to buy clothes 11 to 12 years old because she has put on weight.

How do I get her to wear these clothes?



Take out, or obliterate with a permanent marker, the size information.  Tell her they are the right size clothes for her.  Refuse to discuss size.  That's what I would do.  
D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
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