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Hi everyone,

I've learned from here that some girls got their periods back even before they are weight restored. I am so glad for them and feel they are lucky. For my D, she was weight restored 2-3 months ago, but her period has not restarted yet. And this really upsets her.

I understand one of the possible reasons could be that her target weight was set too low by doc(although she is now 3 kgs above that target weight, perhaps she still needs to gain). But I wonder it could be other reasons too, like my D had never had regular period pre-ED. She actually had only started menstruating less than 1/2 year before it stopped due to weight loss but when she was still within normal weight range. I guess for those whose periods restarted early maybe they had always regular periods pre-ED? I don't know if that could be the reason my D has to wait longer for her period to be back? How long does it normally take for period to restart? Is there anything we can let doc check?

All thoughts and advice welcome!

vigilantmum I would recommend that you read Julie O'Toole's blog on Weight restoration 2.0 or look at her video on the Feast page. This explains that other than needing more weight (which is necessary in some cases) that the other factors involved may be too much exercise, thyroid issues, continued irregular dietary intake. In short if there is anything that is suppressing the hypothalamus and pituitary glands. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Is she getting enough fats in her diet? Add grapeseed oil, coconut oil, olive oil to her meals/smoothies-fats made all the difference for my D.   Even if she is weight restored.
5 years in active recovery; With many, many days of full nutrition and closed loopholes, insight, life experiences and brain maturity we are slowly loosening the safety net
My dtr's weight needed to be 10lbs higher then previously wr set point before menstruation returned.
VM - This IS so frustrating for all.  My d's weight had to be higher than it had been set at and higher than she had been pre-AN.  We also needed to increase fats and cut out all exercise for 3 months after she got it back once in order to maintain it regularly.
Enjoying my 23 year-old daughter's achievement of active recovery that was made possible by the resources and education I found on this forum.

Don't give up hope!
Thanks mums! I see the importance of weight, fats, no too much exercise, and regular dietary intake.
Women can have their periods every 20–35 days. Twenty-eight days is the average. When you first start menstruating, the cycle could be irregular—starting, stopping, and starting again. You could have one period and then wait six months for the next one! Until your body adjusts to your cycle, your period may be unpredictable. But after that, it should regulate itself. If not, see your doctor.Once your period is regular you could try this out still have cycle changes caused by hormones. Also stress, emotions, sudden life-style change, and even some medications could affect your period .
I would urge you to increase fats, add more weight and let her body naturally restore itself.  My biggest regret is that after weight restoration and no return of periods as my d's estrogen level was lower than my menopausal level, I allowed a doctor to convince me that we should "jump start" the process with hormone therapy.  While it was successful it was successful in restoring her cycle it was hell to endure.  Estrogen flooded her body and the suicidal ideation was terrible.  It truly was the hardest part in our journey through anorexia.  Fortunately, it is in the past.  My d is doing well.  Periods are regular and she has maintained her weight (20 lbs above target) for 15 months now. 
Mom of a 19 yr old. RAN diagnosed 1/2014. Residential, PHP, IOP. W/R since late summer 2014. Now in remission and thriving in her second year at university. My Faith remains.