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yellowcaty
Well after 16 long months of IP my precious D is finally coming home tomorrow. I know we still have a long way to go but this is a massive step.

xx
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deenl
Dear yellowcaty

I hope this period of transition is as smooth as is possibly can be. You are right that it is an important step in the right direction. 

Thanks for the update and please let us know if we can help you with anything no matter how good, bad or ugly. I know that I have experienced much of all 3 and it took us quite a while to find out what worked for us.

Wishing you all the very best of luck,

D

P.S. I got interrupted before I could finish... I wanted to say how much I respect you for what you have had to deal with so far. I must have been very, very difficult to have your daughter IP for an extended time. I'm sure it is the case for all children with serious illness but it seems extra unfair that the severity of the illness varies so much. I do so hope that there will be few bumps in your continued journey and this painful time will be the foundation on which her recovery is based. Big hugs to you.
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Kali
Hi Yellowcaty,

Hoping all will go well with your daughters homecoming. 
You have fought a long and hard battle to help get her where she is now and we are all here to support you.

warmly,

Kali
Food=Love
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Foodsupport_AUS
So pleased to hear that she if finally coming home. Such a long time. As has been said already I hope the journey from here is smooth. You have dealt with so much already. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Enn
Yellowcaty,
I am glad to hear from you. This is momentous and hope this part of the journey is not too rough. 
Sending good thoughts and wishes.
As others have said, please let us know how we can be there for you.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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kazi67
Yellowcaty
so good to hear your news
wishing you and your lovely d all the best in this next step 
hoping the transition goes smoothly 
will be thinking of you both xx
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Mamaroo
Great to hear she's coming home, must be do nice to know she will be under the same roof as you. Sending lots of hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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Mamaroo
Hi Yellowcaty
Just a quick note to see how things are going on your side? Sending you lots of hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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yellowcaty
Hi Mamaroo

Thank you for checking in. No happy ending here I’m afraid. D was readmitted to the IP unit yesterday after 4 months at home. Another Christmas full of hospital visiting and juggling the rest of the family, but we are lucky that she has access to a higher level of care x
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ValentinaGermania
Just sending a big hug. ❤
Tell us when we can help with anything.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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deenl
I'm sorry that your journey is such a difficult one.

Wishing you whatever will soothe your soul a little.

Hugs,

D
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Enn
Dear yellowcaty,
I am sending kind thoughts. 
💜
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Torie
Thank you for the update - I have been thinking of you and your d.  As the others have said, we are always here for you if we can help in some small way.  I will keep my fingers crossed that this current IP will be the start of lasting improvement.  I hope your season is as peaceful as possible. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Kali

Dear Yellowcaty,

I'm sending a big virtual hug to you. So glad that your daughter is able to get the care and help she needs and keeping hope alive that this time it will be the start of remission for her and that things will improve for both her and your family.  

warmly,
Kali

Food=Love
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CED123
Sorry to hear that yellowcaty - thinking of you.
Currently no light; only tunnel 🙁
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Mamaroo
yellowcaty wrote:
Hi Mamaroo

Thank you for checking in. No happy ending here I’m afraid. D was readmitted to the IP unit yesterday after 4 months at home. Another Christmas full of hospital visiting and juggling the rest of the family, but we are lucky that she has access to a higher level of care x


Sending lots if hugs your way 🤗🤗🤗🤗
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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ValentinaGermania
How are you doing?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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