F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

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Christmas 2012 found us quickly coming to terms with the fact that our 13 year old D had developed an eating disorder and that this was a serious illness we were battling, not just a teen phase.  Our daughter was still in a healthy weight range, but her AN thoughts and behaviors were consuming her every thought.

Christmas 2013 saw us still supervising all meals and snacks on a pretty rigid schedule, 7 months after coming home from UCSD ED Clinic.  Medically, she was ok and her life was no longer consumed by food thoughts every day, however she still struggled with urges to restrict and body dysmorphia.

Christmas 2014 finds us in a place I barely recognize.  A world where my teenager sleeps in on the weekends and is actually snacking between meals.  Where we are all slowly relearning what normal eating looks like in families that aren't fighting for their child's life every meal, every day.

We are all adjusting to this new world that isn't dominated by food and I am so grateful I can barely articulate the relief.  We are doing the dance of Phase II and I expect to have some slips and falls along the way, but I am glad we hung in even when it felt like we were living a nightmare and couldn't go on another minute, let alone another meal.  

We remain vigilant and proud of the hard work all of us have done to support our D.   

God bless all of you in the thick of it and please remember that you are doing the right thing.  Have faith in the process, keep an eye on the small wins, and know that you are all warriors fighting a fight that can be won.


“Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." Christopher Robin to Pooh
So happy you got through this and can give us all hope. Merry Christmas to you all and I hope you can just relax and enjoy it this year.
Daughter was age 11 when she started restricting Aug 2014, admitted to paed ward Dec 2014 for low BP, pulse rate and spent 3 weeks there. As they were about to NG tube her, she decided to eat again. After approx. 1.5 years on a meal plan and lots of toil, sweat and tears she is weight restored and has just been discharged from NHS care. It's been a very slow traumatic process but each day we are making progress.
Jasmine1 - I just read through your posts and my heart goes out to you and your family.  

This illness is so horrible.  Please know that your daughter is in there and is counting on you to continue to fight for her and support her in this battle for her health.  So much of what you are seeing is due to the malnutrition and food/nourishment will definitely help her to get her sweet brain healing.

I wish there were magic words, but the truth is that your girl will have to suffer a bit to get through this - and watching her will break your heart - but the love of a parent and child can withstand the trauma of anorexia and anything it throws at you.

Stay strong..  You are in good company.
“Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." Christopher Robin to Pooh