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I have a good choc mud cake recipe but would like a new choc cake recipe if anyone has a good one?  My daughter won't eat icing (frosting) so the calories need to come from the cake itself!

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I don't have a specific recipe, but flourless chocolate cakes tend to be pretty high in calories and don't have icing/frosting. I usually top mine with a dusting of powdered sugar to make it look pretty.

Chocolate lava cakes (with a cake outside and a liquidy center) are also pretty caloric, although they're somewhat fussy IMO.
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When people make cake pops, they bake a cake and then crumble it and stir in frosting so it is moist enough to be rolled into a ball. Then they are usually dunked in melted candy coating or chocolate.  If she won't eat it dunked, maybe she'd still eat the ball if she was not aware the frosting was incorporated?  

Editing to add:  I can't recall how old your d is -- mine is in fourth grade and we are sending her with bite sized snacks she can eat in class.  Little bites of cake ball (dipped or not) would work if you have an opportunity to do this.  You could probably add protein powder in the mixture as well (after the cake is baked, and when stirring in the frosting).
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
Have you tried chocolate brownies?  Here in the U.S. they sell many brands of brownie mixes.  Our favorite brand is Ghirardelli.  They are quick and easy to make - just add egg, oil and water to the mix.  I serve a large piece with a fork so it actually looks a bit like a piece of cake but it is dense has a lot more calories than a normal piece of chocolate cake and everyone loves them especially with a dollop of ice cream on the side.

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15 yr old d diagnosed with AN late December 2015 at the age of 12 after a 23 lb weight loss during prior 3 months. Started FBT/Maudsley at home on Christmas Eve with support from amazing local nutritionist specializing in ED and trained in FBT. WR Feb 2016 and pushing our way through puberty and rapid growth.
I made ghirardelli brownies tonight, stirred in a bunch of choc chips before baking, very tasty, and served it with fresh raspberries on top. Now it's a fruit dessert so that's healthy!

Here is my family chocolate cake recipe and it comes out moist so should be good with no frosting. I made it beginning when I was a little kid so you know it is easy!  It should be plenty useful as it has canola, 3 eggs and sour cream.

Chocolate Cake, cook in greased and floured 9 by 12 pan 

Heat in a double boiler over boiling water, or on low in a medium sauce pan:   1 1/2 cup water with 3 1-ounce squares unsweetened baking chocolate ( i.e.  3 ounces total chocolate) , and 3/4 cup canola oil.  Heat mixture till chocolate is melted, stirring occasionally and being careful not to allow it to scorch.

Beat 3 large eggs well in a large mixing bowl, then beat in 2 1/2 cups sugar and beat till light and lemon-colored, then add  1 cup sour cream and 1 1/2 teaspoon vanilla and mix well. 

Sift 3 cups cake flour, 1 teaspoon salt and 2 teaspoons baking soda into bowl and toss well to mix ( or just mix well in a bowl if you don't have a sifter, no problem)

Gradually mix flour mixture into egg mixture 1/3 at a time, alternating with adding in chocolate mixture and using low speed on blender.  Begin and end with the flour mixture.  Mix only until the flour is blended in, you don't want to overbeat it.

pour into greased and floured pan, bake 350 degrees for 40 to 45 minutes , just till toothpick stuck in center comes out clean

Frosting (for someday)

1 can sweetened condensed milk, 2 one ounce squares unsweetened baking chocolate, 1/4 tsp vanilla, 1 teaspoon hot water. Mix milk and chocolate together and cook 10 minutes in double boiler over boiling water.  Mix in vanilla and water till smooth and frost cake.

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