F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

Welcome to F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum. This is a free service provided for parents of those suffering from eating disorders. It is moderated by kind, experienced, parent caregivers trained to guide you in how to use the forum and how to find resources to help you support your family member. This forum is for parents of patients with all eating disorder diagnoses, all ages, around the world.

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Elfandi5
Hello. Totally new to this forum although I've read many posts before.
I don't think I'm as strong as most of the parents on here because I'm really feeling that I'm done. Last ditch hope is to ask if there is anyone in Edinburgh who would be willing to meet?
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Enn
Welcome,
I am sure there are others that will be here from Edinburgh soon. As for feeling not so strong, I know I don't feel I ever was. We all just learn at our own pace what is needed. I do hope that you find some support here and that you post. I know others here all want to help in anyway we can. 
All the best,
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tammy
Hi,
I am not from Edinburgh but near Glasgow. My experience is with a very young child who was eight at time of diagnosis but I am willing to chat with you and share any knowledge I have if that would help. If you send me a personal message I will get back to you. I can't remember how to do the personal message but hopefully someone will be along to advise us!
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Enn
To email a person click on their name and then it says ‘email’ click on that and you may send your message.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tammy
Thanks Scaredmom
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Ronson
Hi 

I’m north of Edinburgh - but sometimes through in Edinburgh.  Happy to chat also.

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melstevUK
Elfandi5,

A big welcome to you.  It is totally normal that you feel like this.  Everyone gets a horrendous shock when they get a diagnosis of an eating disorder in their child.  We have all heard of them but don't understand them until we have to live with them.
In general Scotland is doing well with the treatment of ed patients so if you are having difficulties, don't hesitate to let your team know and ask them questions.  If your child a teenager?  All front line nurses who work with child and adolescent patients in Scotland are now trained in FBT and this is what you should be having.  Nevertheless, there is always huge resistance around eating and weight gain in these early stages so no wonder you are feeling done.

Try and take each day as it comes.  As the months go by there will be times when it feels easier.  The main shock is that there is no overnight treatment which leads to a fast recovery and when we realise that we have a long road ahead, that can be very daunting.

Unfortunately we have no peer support groups in Edinburgh.  If you can manage to travel to either Kircaldy, Dundee, Glasgow or Perth there are support groups there.  Have a look at the Linda Tremble Foundation website.  I believe they are also doing befriending and will have someone available to talk to a couple of times a week.  Don't hesitate to contact them.  We also have a support group in Aberdeen but that is a bit far to travel.

You will get a lot of support from people on the forum too.   So please feel to ask questions and cry on our shoulders.  That is what we are here for. 
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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tina72
Elfandi5 wrote:
Hello. Totally new to this forum although I've read many posts before.
I don't think I'm as strong as most of the parents on here because I'm really feeling that I'm done. Last ditch hope is to ask if there is anyone in Edinburgh who would be willing to meet?


Just wanted to say that nobody of us was strong at the start and that we all thought we cannot do that.
It is a steep learning curve but you love your child and I am sure you can do that.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Emma_Olive1
Hi there, I'm in the Borders but in Edinburgh fairly regularly and would be happy to meet. would be nice to talk,  My D is 18yrs and and has been an inpatient at the Royal Edinburgh last year. You could email me if you like. Sending love 
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hope21
I’m in Edinburgh and could meet you.  D diagnosed aged 12 now 15.  Been though inpatient, fbt. 

let me know 
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