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SeaLion
I'm looking for a recommendation of Twin Cities medical provider who works well with young adult ED-sufferers.  This provider would welcome input from parents (and siblings), working with the patient's uneven levels of maturity, instead of pushing patient toward "independence" in things that the young person is too ill to manage without support.   We've tried dietitians, individual therapists, and a few months of adolescent intensive outpatient therapy (a while ago).  My D can toe the line when she has regular weigh-ins and appointments.  Even if this is to prove to everyone that she does NOT have an ED, it does seem to help her!  She was weight-restored for over a year, but never developed the intuitive eating we parents hoped to see before college began.  Since starting college, she's resumed restrictive eating patterns and she has lost a significant amount of weight.  Her Dad and I agree that she needs treatment, but we don't want to jump in blind.  Our D attributes her difficulties to everything BUT her ED... She talks a good talk, and her weight can be "too low" (for her growth curve), with alarming effects that are obvious to her family... without being "scary-low," to any physician who over-values the BMI chart.  M.D., R.D., therapist and other recommendations would all be welcome.  Current psychiatrist is concerned about our daughter and would work well with other providers who have ED expertise.  Thank you. 
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tina72
You have posted that question 2 times, sealion, maybe you can delete one?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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SeaLion
Hi, tina72, I was trying to correct a typo in my post, not trying to post twice.  Thanks for letting me know. 
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SeaLion
mimi321,

I appreciate your good wishes and also the link.  I don't know why, but every time I try NEDA's link it says "no results found" that fit my criteria.  It only lets you pick one thing per category, which is odd.  I will try their toll-free number instead. 
Hugs!
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Havanese
The Emily Program or Melrose. Our daughter did both,new significantly preferred TEP.
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tp7
We were just discharged from Melrose IP, and although grateful to them for helping D gain weight we were not impressed with many aspects of their care methodology.  
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tina72
First I would take her off college for some time x and ask her to come home and eat with you again until she is WR. I think you pay for college and so you set the rules. I would not pay for ED at college and have a contract with rules to go back (maintaining weight, see GP for check and weighings regularly etc.)
What about the one week family program at UCSD to get started again? They have a program for young adults too I think.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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SeaLion
Hi, Havanese,
Thank you so much for the tip: "The Emily Program or Melrose. Our daughter did both,new significantly preferred TEP."

Is your daughter also a young adult?  If it's not too personal to answer, approximately how long ago did she have treatment at Melrose?  Were you unhappy with it, as a parent?  My D won't be happy to have ED treatment anywhere, so I'm interested to know a little more.  From year to year, there are changes of staff everywhere, it seems.  But the overall treatment approach probably doesn't change much. 

Thanks again.
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SeaLion
Hello tp7,

Thank you for sharing this:  "We were just discharged from Melrose IP, and although grateful to them for helping D gain weight we were not impressed with many aspects of their care methodology." 

Your experience sounds very difficult.  I wish your family member and you much strength for this long journey. 

May I ask if you went to St. Paul or one of the suburban locations?  My D has not needed IP, but it's good to know as much as possible. 

Thank you so much.
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tp7
Hi SeaLion, 

   Thank you very much for your kind words of support.  We went to their St.Louis Park location, as it's the only location with an inpatient program.  The same providers all seem to rotate locations, so it feels like to some extent the experience is all the same regardless of location.  If you would like further details on their inpatient program I would be more than happy to go into more detail.

Best of luck!!
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Havanese
Sorry it took so long, but I wanted to follow up on your questions. Our daughter was 14 when she first started at Melrose. Our therapist suggested that she go to The Emily Program for inpatient rather than Melrose because they focused more on the mental aspect of recovery at Emily than at Melrose. Our daughter hated both but seemed to improve much more at the Emily Program than at Melrose. 
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