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Hi friends. My cousin's sister in law is an adult with a hx of RAN as an adolescent.  She is in her 40's. Married with 2 kids and still with disordered eating.  BMI 12 now.  She has been seeing a family physician and needs help.  She was rejected by the Center for Balanced Living in Columbus.  Does anyone have any suggestions?  She sounds desperate and unstable by my cousin's report.  My heartfelt thanks and appreciation  
Sorry to hear about your cousin's sister in law. My understanding is that CBL has a strict lower BMI limit for their outpatient program. It sounds as though she may need inpatient care with a BMI that low. If she has been ill for many years she may need quite intensive management as she is likely to have numerous medical complications. 

Denver Acute ? It could also be worth contacting the Gaudiani clinic for further advice, looking at treatment?
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Makes sense.  I'll share with my cousin.  Thank you 
As Foodsupport mentioned, she will need inpatient vs. residential treatment first due to her low BMI.  You say still has disordered eating but in reality she still has RAN.  I think talking about the reality of things is important rather than using less blunt language.  I would suggest looking into multiple locations if possible and trying to find somewhere that looks most appropriate.  One place that is very good at treating low weight anorexics is Denver Acute which you might consider looking into.  If she does go inpatient, I would strongly encourage her to then go to a residential program followed by partial inpatient.  The step down process is extremely important for long term success.
I'm not an expert. And I agree, she still has RAN.  I don't think one can be recovered with a BMI of 12. I've been getting scary snippets of information late at night through my cousin who lives overseas. Hopefully, she'll get admitted and refed soon