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berry75
Hello from Australia,I agree Eva Musbys book was the first of many that I read,but was the one that had the most practical advice along with real life experience of living with the illness.This forum trust me is a life saver,I got more practical advice on here than from any of our doctors,don't get me wrong everyone has their part to play and you do need support from the medical system whatever that maybe in England but this forum is available 24hrs 7 days a week and you won't find anywhere else that you can go to where you will get advice,support and just someone to listen.Best of luck,
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Mamaroo
Hi

I can recommend that you follow a very structured eating routine. We needed to do this. The hospital gave us a meal plan which she had to follow. She didn't and was given supplements to drink instead. It took her 7 weeks before she had 3 meals and 3 snacks every day (as supplements). I've attached some meal plans for you. We put up a weekly meal plan on the fridge so that she could mentally prepare herself. There is a saying here "Life stops until you eat" (LSUYE) which means that nothing happens until the food is eaten, no school, no friends, no phone. You can reframe it in a positive way: "you can go to school as soon as you have finished breakfast" "you can have your phone when you have finished your snack" etc. We had to reorganise our life around her 6 meal/snacks time. It was really hard to sacrifice so much for such a long time. This is unfortunately a marathon and not a sprint. 
Please ask more questions, there is always someone here to help you. Good luck!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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Seashell
Pappy, how’s it going now any improvement? With that level of resistance I’m wondering how you managing to get any food in. Would you describe for me?

Also Mamaroo, you said it too 7 weeks to get up to full 3 meals and snacks. Could you describe what it looked like at the beginning and how you got improvement?
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Mamaroo
Seashell wrote:

Also Mamaroo, you said it too 7 weeks to get up to full 3 meals and snacks. Could you describe what it looked like at the beginning and how you got improvement?


It was quite hard to get her to eat at home. I thought she would be discharged from IP at her proper weight and the ability to eat at home (I can hear you all laughing now). It took a while to learn how to refeed her. She was given a meal plan, but she just took small bites form the meals I served, so I gave her the ensure. On the day of discharged she ate nothing, just a lot of crying. The next day she managed 1 ensure. Over the next couple of days she was able to have 1.5 ensures a day (450 calories). For the 2nd week she was having 2 ensures (600 calories).  By the 3rd and 4th week, she was consistently having 3 ensures a day (900 calories) with some snacks. At this stage she was still having some snacks such as a protein bar, muffins and biscuits, but only tasted her main meals. During the 5th week the ensures were increased to 4 (1200 calories) plus she had some snacks. By the 6th week she was steady on 4 ensures plus some snacks and her weight loss was stopped, but the snacks were eaten less and less. She loss all the weight gained during IP and just managed not going back IP. Week 7 saw 5 ensures a day (1500 calories) consistently, some days even a bit more. By week 8 she was having 6 ensures a day (1800 calories), enough to ensure weight gain. I used incentives to get her to eat. Initially she got points for every meal attempted if she had more than the previous meals and until a wholes meal was eaten. Then she got bonus points when the whole meal plan for day was completed. 

D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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