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formygirl
Hi,
Lately, I have seen several mentions of this Five Day Intensive Young Adult Program at UC San Diego. Does anyone have any first-hand experience with the program? Thanks in advance for any additional information.
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Enn
yes It has a very good reputation. I know those who have been will be here to let you know soon.

In the meantime, I suggest searching the category’ reviews of treatment providers’ .
sk8r31 had a good experience there as well.
You can search her posts as well.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Lexi123
I’m also really curious to hear experiences— I’ve been looking into this program for my D. Hope to hear from some people on here. 
D is 23 with restrictive anorexia since age 13. Purging tendencies shortly there after. Currently underweight and struggling with restricting as well as purging. 
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Enn
This thread may be helpful .
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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mnmomUSA

Not sure what you mean by "young adult" but we participated when my D was almost 16.  It was OUTSTANDING, and I believe one of the keys to where we are today.  Our health insurance covered part of it, and we paid for the rest, plus travel/lodging expenses out of pocket, and it was worth every penny we paid and then some.  I'd have paid double.  I believe "our share" of the program cost was around $2500-3000 (lodging and airfare was more).  At the time we went, the insurance price was around 10K per week, and the "cash price" (if you had no insurance or insurance which did not cover it) was around $5000.  For a M-F program 9-4:30 each day, that's pretty decent.  We paid over $200 per hour for local therapy which wasn't as effective.   (Where we are today is my D is 20, living on her own at college, and maintaining her weight very well...healthy and active....can't ask for more).

D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
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Scaredmom2019
Mnmom - had you tried anything else prior to the UCSD program? 
Im really considering it but we have done PHP with Emily for a few months already. Wondering how it may compare to other well known programs and if it a duplication or new info.
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va_mom
We participated last spring. The program itself was good, especially for those people who had less knowledge about the neurophysiology of the disease. We had done lots and lots of research so not much was actually new, but we still thought it was valuable If Stephanie is the lead facilitator she is incredibly helpful and wonderful.. There were a couple families where one parent/ caregiver didn't really understand the disease and it seemed especially helpful for them and facilitating conversations between all the participants and their families. At the time, what we thought was even more valuable was the fact that (at least then) attendees could go directly into the PHP program if it is recommended. Our daughter stayed for a couple months and while she did put on some weight, which is a great thing, she came out generally in worse mental shape than she was going in so unfortunately she is one of the people for whom their PHP program is not a good environment.
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formygirl
Thank you for your responses. My daughter is 19, she was diagnosed at age 14 and has been in various treatments since then. Most recently, she was in PHP June-August, residential Sept.-Oct. then back to PHP when she was removed early December for not holding up her end of their "contract". I have a hard time believing this program can offer anything new.
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Enn

For more information about the program with your history, you may wish to contact the program intake director personally. That way they can advise you better and you will have the opportunity to ask questions of them to see if this may be a fit or not. 

 

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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formygirl
Thank you. I have, of course, been in contact with the intake team. I was hoping to find someone with personal experience with the program, as my sense has been most programs will tell prospective participants that they are a fit.
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mnmomUSA
Mnmom - had you tried anything else prior to the UCSD program? 
Im really considering it but we have done PHP with Emily for a few months already. Wondering how it may compare to other well known programs and if it a duplication or new info.


Yes.  We did the UCSD program AFTER two years of what I would say was excellent FBT treatment.  We just needed that "extra" something to get passed the last few issues we had.  My daughter was "healthy" physically, and at a good weight, but still, we could tell that her anorexia was JUST under the surface, and we had remaining issues (taking far too long to eat, leaving the last few bites, etc).  The intensity of the program allowed us to build on the progress we had already made, and to have a strong plan (and contract) in place to finally get her in a good place mentally.  The information that was presented about FBT, and some of the basics of the illness, etc, wasn't "new" to us, but having the meal coaching for many meals and snacks was outstanding.  Plus, they helped mediate our contract with our daughter.  I believe the contracting process was so effective because my daughter bought into it every single step of the way.  I also want to say that the interactions with the other families there was amazing.  We learned from each other.  I highly recommend it.  There's nothing like being able to FOCUS with help for an entire week.  It's like a years worth of therapy condensed into a week.
D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
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mnmomUSA
formygirl wrote:
Thank you for your responses. My daughter is 19, she was diagnosed at age 14 and has been in various treatments since then. Most recently, she was in PHP June-August, residential Sept.-Oct. then back to PHP when she was removed early December for not holding up her end of their "contract". I have a hard time believing this program can offer anything new.


I learned very little "new" in terms of information while we were there, but what was "new" was the kind of intense assistance we received meal after meal.  They are with you to guide you every step of the way.  We learned new techniques and strategies.  It was amazing.  Like you, I was skeptical whether it would "work" because from afar , it sounded like more of the same.  For US, it was absolutely the right thing to do.  The oldest participant in our group was 19.  The youngest, 12.  Average age was about 16/17.   They take the patients off for their own "working sessions" while they work separately with the caregivers.  I don't know for sure what happened in all of those sessions, but what I DO know is that it turned a switch in my daughter.   We also had several presentations from the patients in the form of skits, etc that were absolutely illuminating.  My daughter opened up in new ways I'd not seen before.  There was understanding on her side and mine that went deeper.  It's hard for me to explain it all.  We went, in the end, because I was desperate to be done with this illness. I was willing to try anything.  From previous participants here, it seemed worth a shot, and of course, it was.  More than worth it.

Edited to add:  I found the thread I did immediately after returning.https://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post/my-thoughts-on-the-family-intensive-at-ucsd-7470312?pid=1287647111

And, the one I did just before going---you can sense the desperation in this :https://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post/update-finding-a-new-path-7403369?pid=1287176047
D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
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formygirl
I did hear from the program and it really sounds intriguing. This is a program actually aimed at patients age 18-26, so it is geared more towards giving the patients true ownership of their recovery...
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Foodsupport_AUS
Yes the young adult program was developed with Center for Balanced Living. I have the book of the program and a lot of information about the materials but not so as they can be published. There was a series of workshops on the program last year here. I think it is important to know that the 5 day program is not a treatment in itself but rather is meant to be an intensive program to try to help treatment move in a better direction. It aims to get both patient and caregivers on the same team to help them work better together. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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formygirl
I think it is important to know that the 5 day program is not a treatment in itself but rather is meant to be an intensive program to try to help treatment move in a better direction. It aims to get both patient and caregivers on the same team to help them work better together. 


Thank you for this additional information.
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