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Dear Everyone,

We are celebrating a quiet family holiday, the fourth Xmas post diagnosis. Each holiday has been progressively less filled with anxiety: the first Xmas we negotiated meals in advance and I timed every meal, and served it and watched that every bite was eaten; the second we didn't need to negotiate (because d could eat a much larger variety of foods), but I still watched that she ate enough, had to tell her to eat more, and watched that every bite was eaten; the third I just watched and stressed and counted calories silently in my head all through the vacation. This vacation, I am still aware of what she eats, and I make sure food is available at reasonable intervals. But otherwise, I do nothing but remind myself to relax. Which is still not easy for me.

So that is my message to you all who are in the trenches, who are watching your child's every forkful, and sneaking hwc into the milk when Auntie Dieter isn't looking: things will get better.

Things will get better!!

Feed your child more, much more than they think is the right amount; more than your doctor thinks is the right amount; more than your spouse thinks is the right amount; more than you think is the right amount; keep chipping away at every ed behavior, every ed fear, and

Things will get better.

Our d is basically mostly happy, and at the moment laughing with a friend and comparing which is better, honey roasted or milk chocolate covered macadamia nuts. 

Hugs to you all,

D diagnosed with EDNOS May 2013 at age 15, refed at home Aug 2013, since then symptoms gradually lessened and we retaught her how to feed and care for herself, including individual therapy, family skills DBT class, SSRI medication and relapse-prevention strategies. Anxiety was pre-existing and I believe she was sporadically restricting since about age 9. She now eats and behaves like any normal older teen, and is enjoying school, friends, sports, music and thinking about the future.
Dear Psycho_Mom,

Great that your D is doing so well. I can recall your posts back when it was difficult.

Your mention of Macadamia nuts made me smile, I make a very good Macadamia nut Christmas Pudding & its made from nuts I grow myself.
ED Dad
" Aunt dieter" lololololol!!!!!

Love to you!
And I couldn't agree more- feed them MORE.Aim for a HIGHER weight. Be relentless in pursuing the beast known as ed.
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
Psycho_Mom, I love the name you've chosen!! Wishing you a very angst-free and ED-free New Year. xxx
Bev Mattocks, mother of 24-year old male DX with RAN 2009, now recovered. Joined this forum in 2010 - it was a lifesaver.