F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

Welcome to F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum. This is a free service provided for parents of those suffering from eating disorders. It is moderated by kind, experienced, parent caregivers trained to guide you in how to use the forum and how to find resources to help you support your family member. This forum is for parents of patients with all eating disorder diagnoses, all ages, around the world.

Join these conversations already in progress:
• Road To Recovery - Stories of Hope
• Events for Parents and Caregivers Around the World
• Free F.E.A.S.T Conference Videos

Visit the F.E.A.S.T website for information and support.

If you need help using the forum please reach out to one of the moderators (listed below), or email us at bronwen@feast-ed.org.

Enn
It is Halloween this week. I have always loved this time of the year. The sweet young kids in costumes asking for candies and getting them from a stranger (weird right?)
It may be a difficult time for your child.
The first year, 6 months into the AN diagnosis, my d did go with friends more for the social aspect. She had so many candies at the end of the evening and did not eat any... it was sad. 
Last yr was 1.5 years into it and again went out and ate a few for a few days after. 
She is now 14 and will not likely go- to old. She still does not eat loads of candies but will eat a chocolate bar or bag of chips for snack. 

Here is a link I hope will help you get through this : https://www.eatingdisordertherapyla.com/this-halloween-serve-candy-to-your-teen-in-recovery/?fbclid=IwAR2mO3o2NDsrcvARIy8fNAg3QXhzW5qupiMaRXtcGgnWbbBdZuvmN_kNkwc
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Quote
Enn
Here are a couple of other links as well.
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/blog/5-tips-happy-halloween

https://themighty.com/2017/10/halloween-is-hard-for-someone-with-eating-disorder-tips/
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Quote
Foodsupport_AUS
It is definitely an unusual tradition. Less of an issue in Australia. There are a few people who try to celebrate it, however it is a minority even of those with children. Thinking of those of you who celebrate, and that your children do enjoy it. Scaredmom I hope a few of your D's friends decide to go out so she can go too. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Quote
Enn

Thank you @Foodsupport_AUS  I hope she goes out too!

 

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Quote
sk8r31
Thanks for posting the links scaredmom.  I think whether Halloween is celebrated or not, the ideas around 'normalizing' social eating are useful.  And we have more holiday celebrations coming up with American Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas and so on.  Many celebrations and traditions that involve food; it's great to think and plan ahead.
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
Quote
sandie
You can get chocolate coated apples on a stick here for Hallowe’en. D had one the other day. I think some kids might find the chocolate/fruit combination easier. 
Quote
Enn
Thanks sandie,
I do agree making it look healthier works!
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Quote
PurpleRain
My daughter loves Halloween, and wants to go this year (4 months WR) she is 14 y and I guess it will be the last one, we are fortunate to have cousins to go with and a little brother (9 y) she has always loved more the costumes than the candy anyway but I hope she can eat some. I can't even remember if she had some last  year, she was already eating "healthy" (aggghh) but we were not aware of anything bad/wrong about it so I didn't pay attention. I certainly will be paying attention this year.
13 yo d started to eat "healthy" september 2018, she had a growth spur a bit later, followed by tummy bug. She started restricitng breakfast and school lunch in january 2019 (that we know). We are refeeding at home (succesfully I think) since the beginning of march.
I have found inner strenght, patience and compassion that i did not know I had. Never retreat, never surrender
Just keep feeding
 
Quote
Enn
I hope it goes well purplerain. Has she done some candies yet? 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Quote
deenl
Like many people on the recovery path my son would not eat outside of meal/snack times and indeed still rarely does so but with 3 meals and 3 snacks a day it's not really surprising. At holiday times, I encorporate some of the traditional treats into the snacks until they are all gone. This works well with us and means we aren't left with piles of treats and gets him used to eating celebration foods.

D
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
Quote
PurpleRain
Good idea deenl!
My d has had some candy but is not a fan scareemom (even before ED)
I'll let you know haw it goes 🙂
13 yo d started to eat "healthy" september 2018, she had a growth spur a bit later, followed by tummy bug. She started restricitng breakfast and school lunch in january 2019 (that we know). We are refeeding at home (succesfully I think) since the beginning of march.
I have found inner strenght, patience and compassion that i did not know I had. Never retreat, never surrender
Just keep feeding
 
Quote

        

WTadmin