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Hello all,I have not been here in ages.So many newbies so let me give a little background.My daughter suffers from selective eating disorder.Weight was/is not a problem,but she does have a lot of anxiety around food.We found out that she has suffered a significant trauma and in the past year has been self harming and has suicidal ideation.She has done 2 iop programs for the suicidal ideation and has been diagnosed with PTSD and major depressive disorder.In the last few months her eating is becoming increasingly pickier,she was making great progress but now back to her old ways.She literally can't bring herself to swallow when trying new foods.Anyway my daughter has been on homebound instruction since September(started 7th grade but only did 2weeks)and she will now be going back to the other middle school after break.She chose to go to the other middle school in our district because some kids found out what was going on and she didn't want to go back,so she will have a fresh start.Gym class causes a lot of anxiety for her,she has a very negative body image and is very anxious.She also has asthma and is embarrassed that she can't do as much.I know slot of you have pulled your children out of gym class and I was wondering if anyone could give me some info.My daughter is not underweight so the no exercise thing is not applicable here.But I am wondering since gym is a graduation requirement how do I cover that?I did mention to the school once that I may have to pull her out in the future but the woman I spoke to did not seem to know if that was possible.Also I wonder if I am teaching her to give in to her anxieties or should I be in the mind set that in the scope of life,gym class is not a priority.
Dear Bon,

Only you (with the team) can decide if your d should be in gym. You know her best and I'm sure your instinct will be right. That said, I think I would get my d out if possible. It can be just another stress in an already stressful day. Your d has so much to work through.

If you do decide to get her out, I'm sure a medical certificate would work? Can you get one of her medical team to write a letter? The letter wouldn't have to necessarily specify the reason, and you could mention asthma. That would be enough to make the school believe asthma was the cause, in most cases. Around the world we have had such wide variations in the amount of support schools have given us. Let's hope yours comes to the party!

D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]
If a doctor writes a note excusing her from gym, I think the school has to simply accept it. And owing to patient-doctor confidentiality the doctor does not even have to say why the child is excused, they just ARE. in our case my daughter seemed delighted when, in the face of her concern that the school wouldn't let her skip gym, the doctor said authoritatively, "Well, they HAVE to listen to me." And they did.
I will talk to her doctor tomorrow,my gut tells me to pull her out.I was wondering about a DX because they always require one on anything I ask them for,but you're right it is confidential information.