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Ok I did it although it is so big. But I guess that is ok as these moments are HUGE![biggrin]
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I love reading all of these gold star moments and feel so proud for all of your amazing, brave children. I feel a bit greedy but my weekend has been full of gold star moments.
My son has been doing well for a few months but still struggles with sitting relaxing, gets up far too early in the morning and has difficulty with eating in front of friends and some fear foods still remain which we are ticking off.
This weekend we had a get together with his friends to celebrate his ninth Birthday. He ate cheese puffs from a bowl in centre of table and helped himself. He plated his dinner from a buffet and chose pizza ( Fear food). He managed to plate himself a decent portion and ate it all in front of his friends with no anxiety.
He has also sat and relaxed a lot more this weekend, slept for longer and managed more car journeys without getting anxious. So many gold star ⭐️ moments! I am so impressed.
My wish is for everyone struggling to see that there can be light at the end of the tunnel.
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ice cream at the mall today
yay!!
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Buffalo Wild Wings - just now! It was a take out but first chicken eaten from some other place than home. Parmesan garlic flavor - 3 boneless pieces of quite decent size. [cool]
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Tammy - quite nice collection of gold stars! So happy for you 😉 
Scaredmom - yay! Not only ice cream but also in a public place - doubble whammy😉
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Thanks for the ideas everyone! And such great successes!

Well it will be chicken wings this weekend, thanks martican!![smile]

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These are so fabulous! How fun is it to sit here and smile at all your wonderful Gold Star Moments!! They are inspiring, and there is (for me) a feeling of kinship knowing that we all understand the huge step of grabbing a pretzel, licking a lid, and complimenting a prepared meal!

We had a couple today:

My D has insisted that she must start each day  (about 7 months) with an apple. Today, while we were out shopping (needed to get an outfit for an event, and she didn't want to eat lunch until after shopping) - she mentioned that she did not have her apple with breakfast.  I was so shocked - I said, "You didn't have your apple this morning?' She said, "No Mom, how many apples do you think I can eat - you can only eat so many apples." DEFINITELY hid my smile!

Shopping for an outfit - she has an event to attend, and does not want to try on any of her outfits.  Going shopping for clothes was a big step.  What was so interesting is that she still sees herself as "fat" -- but clothing sizes don't lie. She needs a 4, but kept getting 6s (she has never been a 6- so that was different) - she was able to see that I was not lying - she is not as big as she thinks (not that a 6 is big-- just not her size). Good reality check - and she was OK trying on clothes!!!

It is fun to stop and recount these types of moments, because I know I often think also about the not-so-gold-star-moments - it's nice to jot down the positives [smile]
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A good day here!!
D went for first sleep over since last year. I prepared one snack for her. They went to the mall.

She actually took a sip to try a friends bubble tea!! Then she had take out Chinese food AND had potato chips for snack after supper, AND ate large waffle this morning for breakfast with chocolate milk.
She texted me last night and said she is doing "good, I am doing sooooo good for myself!"

I am so proud of her. She did not have issues and it was a normal happy time with her friends. I am so happy today.
She was so excited when I picked her up this morning and said that she "did better than you do, mom"[smile][smile][smile]
This feels too good to be true. 

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A good day here!!
D went for first sleep over since last year. I prepared one snack for her. They went to the mall.

She actually took a sip to try a friends bubble tea!! Then she had take out Chinese food AND had potato chips for snack after supper, AND ate large waffle this morning for breakfast with chocolate milk.
She texted me last night and said she is doing "good, I am doing sooooo good for myself!"

I am so proud of her. She did not have issues and it was a normal happy time with her friends. I am so happy today.
She was so excited when I picked her up this morning and said that she "did better than you do, mom"[smile][smile][smile]
This feels too good to be true. 



I am literally crying happy tears of joy for your daughter and for you!! What a beautiful, wonderful day this is for you!!
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Hi scaredmom,
YES!!!
Definitiv a gold star moment! I am so happy for you!

My gold star moment yesterday:
D visited a friend, they went to a nice cafe and she had cappucino and an apple pie! When she came home she said: "I had such a nice afternoon and it felt so right and normal to do that and to sit in that cafe and eat that cake". YES! That is life, my dear!

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Scaredmom my daughter had Chinese yesterday! First time in I don't know how long...it was her "lucky dip" fear food this week so we went out as a family and it was great...once she knew what she was having she just got on and ate it and enjoyed normal family time. She also ate out with her friends earlier in the week..fajitas!! First time eating with them (and without me) for a loooong time. 

These things seem so normal to everyone else but to all the brave families here they are truly emotional moments and very clear markers of steps in the right direction.. Love it!!!
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These are all so wonderful to read!  I'm not sure my other daughter knew what to think as I was smiling and had tears coming down my face as I read your posts!  I am truly so excited for all you and your families! Going out with friends and being so "Normal" is probably the best defense there is against ED.
Personally, I have always believed that Chinese Food can work wonders[smile]

My D's Gold Star moment was going clothes shopping by herself. She went to the back of her closet, and took out all the old size 0s and 2s (she said so she would never be tempted to fit into them) - she sold them to a resale shop - and then took the money and bought herself a dress and 2 PAIRS OF SHORTS!!! This is huge - she has basically only worn leggings or a pair of black jeans, with a big T-shirt or sweater.  She said she felt good in the new clothes, and had fun (just weeks ago she did not anything to do with trying on clothes).  

I love that we share how incredible these previously typical teen events are now such milestones. Even though I don't know any of you, I feel such joy for you and your families, and LOVE this thread - it is so uplifting!

Please keep it going - we all know our lives are roller coasters - there are so many threads for the down side of the coaster - let's keep this upside flying high!
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Great stories, I love them all! 
"did better than you do, mom"[smile][smile][smile] This is priceless! 
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I am finding that with these moments, there is one theme that is pervasive and that is the NORMAL stuff of life. Normal food, normal life, normal socialising, normal shopping, new clothes- bigger clothes- normal, eating with friends -normal, fajitas - normal,: normal,  normal ,normal!

Hurray for NORMAL- It is becoming my favourite word.

XXX

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Eating a bagel and ice cream in an ice cream store at my son's birthday party.
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Hey debra18.

I am doing a happy dance for you and  your D. [thumb]
How is she doing? How are you doing?

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She is doing great. I tackled all the fear foods. She is just still rigid with her schedule. Wakes up everyday at 6 even on the weekends and I need to be up with her to supervise her.
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debra18, 

Wow about the fear foods!! I noticed my D was waking up at 6 am 7 days per week too and we had "standing issues". Our T told her to sleep in on weekends by an hour or so,so she tried and then it just happened- I cannot recall how long it took though. I don't know how ?maybe with more weight, less standing ,I have no idea. It will come, you will get there. [smile] I believe in you and the process and you have a great team , US, to help you!!
Big hug!




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Thanks you guys are great! Yes still standing issues too. But she isn't WR yet so I think it will go away.
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These aren't food related so I don't know if they count but d has started practising guitar regularly again, she also seems to have finally dropped the anger at us for keeping her home from school and has just in the last 2 days got herself into a good routine with her correspondence school work - sharing with us again where she's up to etc instead of telling us to mind our own business when we enquire. She also started meditating in the mornings which I think is really helping. Happier days [smile] x
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that is wonderful and IS a gold star moment!!
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These are fabulous- and the ones that aren’t food related are also wonderful because we get a glimpse into who your child is- away from the ED. Please keep sharing.

This is probably more funny than Gold Star- D was at college this weekend to work on a special project she was selected for (so very exciting for her to go and participate). The meeting started at 11:00,and ran until the evening. We have spoken to D about always having food on her because you never know how schedules go. So, she brought a sandwich, snacks, drinks, and picked up a few bags of treats for everyone. When everyone was starving-she broke out the food- and everyone commented how well prepared she was, and so great with food (she chuckled inside)😂
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I read every update to this thread and cheer for all of you! There are indeed so many tough moments in this battle, it's so encouraging to hear about the successes! And I agree completely with what others have said...to most people, none of this would seem worthy of a celebration..it's just 'normal!' But it's so very very special to be able to share the moments with people who truly understand how big these victories are!

Our D has had some successes recently! She had been dancing since age 3, in a low key community program that ends at 8th grade (her current year). We hoped to be able to allow her to finish out the program. After some time off at the start of refeeding, she's been participating in the class again for the last few months. The end of year recital was to be this past weekend. When it came time for dress rehearsal, I realized what a huge stress the recital was going to be for her. It involved wearing fitted dance costumes...that she was measured for back at her lowest weight. It also involved looking in the mirror to put on make up and do her hair. Since AN, she's not worn any make up and has worn her hair tied back in a 'messy bun' without any attention in the mirror. The dress rehearsal was a struggle, and I really didn't know if she'd be able to perform...but she danced in both recitals, and in fact she had a solo and also opened the show with another short solo at the beginning of the opening number! And best of all....she ENJOYED it and had fun! She smiled her 'real' smile the whole time! 

Better yet....since ED, she's had a very hard time expressing affection. No hugs, no saying 'I love you.' After the recital, she gave me a huge hug. Then last night she came and told me "I made you a poster." It was a piece of paper on which she'd drawn a dozen or so hearts in the middle, with the words "I" and "You" placed above and below the hearts. I took it to mean "I {heart} you." THAT was a sweet moment for me! 
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So funny needhelp. My D has had similar comments. She always has her snacks with her too, no matter what. 

My D's gold star moment this week was being pleased when I baked banana and choc chip muffins. The bananas had got too ripe so I decided to bake while she was out. She gets home and says "something smells good". When she found out what it was she was pleased, an easy snack to take to school. She had to have one straight away. 


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