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Mcmum
Wow!! The most fabulous words that any human being could utter!!!
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tammy
Brilliant edhater. Fantastic words to hear from a professional.
I heard words from my well into recovery ED son last week that I never thought I would hear.. Referring to his Dad and sisters fussy eating he said “ Mum sure it is weird that me and you are the only ones in this family that really love food”!!
Music to my ears!
Tammy
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tina72
edhater wrote:
My RAN daughter is 5 months post weight restoration. At an appt. with her Psyhiatrist at her ED Clinic yesterday, we discussed that the body checking has decreased considerably. I, as her Mum, had wondered if this was because she is wearing more clothes now that summer has ended. Psychiatrist asked D why she thought she was checking less. D replied: "I don't know, maybe it is because now that I'm back in school, I am a lot busier than I was during summer vacation. Psychiatrist responded: "I don't think that is why you are body checking less." I asked: "Could it not be true, that she's checking less because she's busy with her schoolwork and her return to sport?" Pshychiatrist replied: "In my experience I've never known ED to take a day off. I think your brain is healing." Music to my ears.



I am so happy for you, edhater, I can really imagine to see your bright smile in your face at that moment! Thanks for sharing that with us. Seems to be a great psychiatrist, good to hear that there are some left!

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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kazi67
Brain healing!! Yay! Ed hater

Really love food!! Yay!! Tammy

MUSIC TO MY EARS :)
So happy for you :) :)
xx
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scaredmom
Tammy
He loves food !!!
Love that!
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Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tina72
tammy wrote:
Brilliant edhater. Fantastic words to hear from a professional.
I heard words from my well into recovery ED son last week that I never thought I would hear.. Referring to his Dad and sisters fussy eating he said “ Mum sure it is weird that me and you are the only ones in this family that really love food”!!
Music to my ears!
Tammy


That is so great! No one but us can imagine what that means if your ED kid says "I love food" again!!!

Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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mimi321
Been giving my D12 nacho chips this week as a fear food. First day, 1 chip. Second day, two chips. Today, a small bowl of chips with salsa. Yum! She said when she saw it! It is almost like she wants to drop the pretense now of protesting and just enjoy the foods she used to always like. Funny how it just seems to kind of lift like that with wr and time. The day she asks for seconds, that's when I'll know she is really back to herself, but for now, I'll take Yum! Happy Friday, everyone! 🤗
Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. - A. A. Milne
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scaredmom
mimi321

Standing ovation!!!
That is wonderful!!!
I know you will have a great weekend!!!
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Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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kkhrd
mimi321 wow!  Yum is huge!  Congrats and have a great weekend
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mimi321
We just decided to have chinese takeout which I know she would love but really scared her. But she agreed to takeout chili which is the first time she has had takeout since this past winter, so I'll take that, too! No cooking or cleaning tonight for Mom in a looong time, doin' the happy dance!
Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. - A. A. Milne
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debra18
That's great Mimi! My gold star moment is that my daughter is sitting and playing the keyboard. Yes, sitting!
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mimi321
That's great, Debra! That is a big deal for sure. I remember that stage well.
Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. - A. A. Milne
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Mamaroo
I'm doing my happy dance for both Mimi and Debra, yeah 😁
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9. Started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. She is back to her old happy self and can eat anything put in front of her.
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tina72
debra18 wrote:
That's great Mimi! My gold star moment is that my daughter is sitting and playing the keyboard. Yes, sitting!


Hey debra, that is really great and I can imagine how you felt listening to that music again. Here it was the start of brain recovery when she took her guitar in her hands again!
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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tina72
mimi321 wrote:
We just decided to have chinese takeout which I know she would love but really scared her. But she agreed to takeout chili which is the first time she has had takeout since this past winter, so I'll take that, too! No cooking or cleaning tonight for Mom in a looong time, doin' the happy dance!


Hi mimi321,
yum and takeout in ONE WEEK! That is really great! I remember the first day we had takeout and I did not need to cook! What a relief!!!
My goldstar moment this week:
My d had her first day at University and she ate lunch in the cafeteria with all the other students like that is the most normal thing in the world...

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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mimi321
Yay, Tina! Sounds awesome!
Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. - A. A. Milne
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scaredmom

Tina72,
"My d had her first day at University and she ate lunch in the cafeteria with all the other students like that is the most normal thing in the world..."

WHAT CAN I SAY TO THAT? BEST THING EVER! WAY TO GO!!!

XXX

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Ronson
That’s fantastic Tina x
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kkhrd
So happy for you Tina!  So happy for all the gold star moments, they really brighten my day!

another gold star moment yesterday for my D, who had a friend over in the afternoon, I called her downstair to have her shake and she grabbed it from my hand and slurped it down in record time, all the while chatting and laughing with me.  I have always had to hold it for her and coach her to finish!!
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tina72
" while chatting and laughing with me "
That is the gold star moment, not the shake drunken in record time!
I am so happy for you, kkhrd!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Kali
Gold star moments

My d. who at her most ill was suicidal (wrote a note and had a plan but we intervened) spent months in the hospital being refed there, was seriously depressed, hated me, threw food, did everything she could to get out of eating until we got her into the hospital and they helped turn it around, was obsessed with her size 24 anorexia jeans, had to take time off from school, I cut down on my work hours to be home feeding and feeding her etc etc etc.

Now at college, eating properly, maintaining a good weight, socially doing well, goes voluntarily to be weighed and meets with her team, and has nice roommates and friends, planning a trip to another country with her friends, etc. Oh and also doing well in her very difficult classes. 

I see her once a month at this point to make sure things are still on track. Mostly we plan some fun things to do together. She had a weight dip last June where we had to step in and make it clear that we could not have her away from home if she wasn't able to eat enough to maintain a good weight. But has turned it around on her own. So I haven't really voiced the word recovery yet but this is looking an awful lot what I would think early recovery might look like.

Last night at dinner she apologized for being so awful to me during the height of her illness and said she couldn't even imagine how difficult it had been for me.

—Kali
Food=Love
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scaredmom
Kali,
How beautiful is that?!
So happy for you.
XXX
Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tina72
Kali, that is so wonderful. I have tears in my eyes. I hope mine will do as well as yours in University.
It is so nice when they start to give something back again. I get so much love now that I think it was really worth every single horrible minute.
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Mamaroo
I'm so glad to hear she is doing well at university and that she was able to gain the lost weight again. Thanks for sharing!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9. Started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. She is back to her old happy self and can eat anything put in front of her.
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Warrior1
Kali that’s is wonderful to read. These success stories reall keep me going when myself or D have a wobble.

I had to nag D to take a shower last night as it had been a few days, she said she wanted a bath! At the start of June she was obsessively showering after every meal and a bath was out of the question as it involved sitting down. I remember thinking then, the day I have to nag her to wash again will be the day I know she is well! Normal 9 year old behaviour has returned!😃 xx
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