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tina72
debra18 wrote:
That's great Mimi! My gold star moment is that my daughter is sitting and playing the keyboard. Yes, sitting!


Hey debra, that is really great and I can imagine how you felt listening to that music again. Here it was the start of brain recovery when she took her guitar in her hands again!
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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tina72
mimi321 wrote:
We just decided to have chinese takeout which I know she would love but really scared her. But she agreed to takeout chili which is the first time she has had takeout since this past winter, so I'll take that, too! No cooking or cleaning tonight for Mom in a looong time, doin' the happy dance!


Hi mimi321,
yum and takeout in ONE WEEK! That is really great! I remember the first day we had takeout and I did not need to cook! What a relief!!!
My goldstar moment this week:
My d had her first day at University and she ate lunch in the cafeteria with all the other students like that is the most normal thing in the world...

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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scaredmom

Tina72,
"My d had her first day at University and she ate lunch in the cafeteria with all the other students like that is the most normal thing in the world..."

WHAT CAN I SAY TO THAT? BEST THING EVER! WAY TO GO!!!

XXX

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Ronson
That’s fantastic Tina x
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kkhrd
So happy for you Tina!  So happy for all the gold star moments, they really brighten my day!

another gold star moment yesterday for my D, who had a friend over in the afternoon, I called her downstair to have her shake and she grabbed it from my hand and slurped it down in record time, all the while chatting and laughing with me.  I have always had to hold it for her and coach her to finish!!
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tina72
" while chatting and laughing with me "
That is the gold star moment, not the shake drunken in record time!
I am so happy for you, kkhrd!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Kali
Gold star moments

My d. who at her most ill was suicidal (wrote a note and had a plan but we intervened) spent months in the hospital being refed there, was seriously depressed, hated me, threw food, did everything she could to get out of eating until we got her into the hospital and they helped turn it around, was obsessed with her size 24 anorexia jeans, had to take time off from school, I cut down on my work hours to be home feeding and feeding her etc etc etc.

Now at college, eating properly, maintaining a good weight, socially doing well, goes voluntarily to be weighed and meets with her team, and has nice roommates and friends, planning a trip to another country with her friends, etc. Oh and also doing well in her very difficult classes. 

I see her once a month at this point to make sure things are still on track. Mostly we plan some fun things to do together. She had a weight dip last June where we had to step in and make it clear that we could not have her away from home if she wasn't able to eat enough to maintain a good weight. But has turned it around on her own. So I haven't really voiced the word recovery yet but this is looking an awful lot what I would think early recovery might look like.

Last night at dinner she apologized for being so awful to me during the height of her illness and said she couldn't even imagine how difficult it had been for me.

—Kali
Food=Love
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scaredmom
Kali,
How beautiful is that?!
So happy for you.
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tina72
Kali, that is so wonderful. I have tears in my eyes. I hope mine will do as well as yours in University.
It is so nice when they start to give something back again. I get so much love now that I think it was really worth every single horrible minute.
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Mamaroo
I'm so glad to hear she is doing well at university and that she was able to gain the lost weight again. Thanks for sharing!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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Warrior1
Kali that’s is wonderful to read. These success stories reall keep me going when myself or D have a wobble.

I had to nag D to take a shower last night as it had been a few days, she said she wanted a bath! At the start of June she was obsessively showering after every meal and a bath was out of the question as it involved sitting down. I remember thinking then, the day I have to nag her to wash again will be the day I know she is well! Normal 9 year old behaviour has returned!😃 xx
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tina72
Hi warrior1,
a BATH! Sitting down! Wonderful news! No one but us here understands why this is something to celebrate!
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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scaredmom

Warrior1,
As the mom of an AN D that would NOT sit, this is huge, huge, huge!! Having a bath is a great break through! Savour it!

XXX

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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scaredmom
I am grinning with you mimi321![biggrin][biggrin][biggrin]
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Mamaroo
Great gold star moment Mimi, thanks for sharing!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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Ronson
That’s fantastic news mimi -hope you did an internal happy dance x
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scaredmom
Well, isn't that wonderful!!!
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tina72
Yeah, I am doing the happy dance also!!![wave]
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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teecee
So happy for you mimi321 😊 xx
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cm72
Yay mimi!!!!
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tina72
Last week I have spend 11 hours in ER with my d. She woke up with very hard chest pain and could not breathe so I called the ambulance.

Thanks to all the wonderful parents here I was prepared that they will not have any food there and threw a few muesli bars into my bag. That was the only thing I could grab in this situation. This goes out to all you in dark days: be prepared for something like that!

They did not find anything, must have been a bilious attack. All fine now. That is not what I wanted to share with you.

My gold star moments on this day in this situation:

She was able to eat for 11 hours just what was avialable from my bag and the food automat although this was not at all "healthy" or normal food.
She did not have a meltdown and no shutdown although eating was completely upside down this day. So this is possible now!
When the doc at ER asked her how tall she is and what she weights my heart stopped beating. She answered totally normal what her heigh is and what she thinks she weights (which was nearly correct) without any problem. Like that is the most normal thing in the world.

I was so proud of her.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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scaredmom
Yes you should be so proud, mama!!
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Kali
Hi Tina,

Sorry your daughter was ill—so scary to have to take her to the ER—but happy to hear that she is becoming more flexible in regards to food!

warmly,

Kali
Food=Love
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Ronson
That’s great Tina - glad she was ok and so glad she copes with it all so well x
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Ronson
Tonight we have two sisters playing on their iPads together and laughing. Honestly did not think it would be like this again
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