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MamaDo
Hi all. It is so lovely to hear your gold star moments. We are early in the process, with some small successes in highly supervised eating.

After 6 days of consistent, no purge eating and constant supervision, she was out on the front porch, laughing with her little sister.

I didn’t realize how long it had been since they had had fun together.
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scaredmom

Mamado, 
What a lovely moment between sisters! BIG GOLD STAR!!

XXX

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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debra18
I had to post this one. My daughter this week told her sister that the cinnamon danish looked tempting but it was too big for her. I went to the store and found the perfect size one for her. It was really the same size but just was thicker and appeared shorter. She gobbled it up today and licked the cinnamon off her fingers.😀
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Mamaroo
Great one Debra! I'm so happy your d could enjoy the cinnamon bun, must have been a treat to see her eat it!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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tina72
Time for a new gold star moment to give you some smiles in your faces:

My d bought me a postcard today.
It says:
"I changed my diet. The cookies are now (put) on the right side of the couch."

It is so great that we both can laugh about that today.

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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scaredmom

tina72,
I am not sure I understand that properly. I think it means She moved the cookies to the right instead of the left, so that is how she "changed her diet"? I hope I am reading that correctly and that is very funny!!

XXX

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tina72
That is exactly what it means, in German it is clear but we do have two words for "right" that means o.k., good and "right" that means on the right side.
Maybe it is easier to understand that way: "the cookies are now put on the right side of the couch"?
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Kali
Gold star moment: My 20 year old d. gained 4.5 lbs ON HER OWN.

Maybe 5 gold stars?

Kali
Food=Love
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scaredmom
Kali,
Maybe 10 GOLD STARS!!!!!
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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scaredmom
tina72 
thanks for clarifying, It is very funny! That is the best!
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tina72
Kali, that is not countable in gold stars! I am so happy for you!
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Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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tammy
Tina 72 and Kali, I am so happy for you both. We had a gold star moment this weekend. First outing to cinema since my 9 year old started to get better. Not only did he manage to sit through a two hour film he was more than happy to go out for dinner afterwards. On the way Home he said he would rate his meal an eight out of ten. When asked why he said the portion was too small!
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Mamaroo
That most definitely will work!!!!!!

Thanks for sharing!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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needhelp
All so wonderful - thank you for sharing!!
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atdt31_US
Might be premature as a Gold Star Moment, but even though we are not quite to 5% BMI we are the closest we have ever been.  Just hoping we can maintain/continue now that school has started.   fullsizeoutput_1aba.jpeg 
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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Foodsupport_AUS
Well done ATDT31. That is a an amazing turn around over a short period of time. Yes hopefully it can be maintained. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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needhelp
This is kind of a different type of Gold Star Moment -- last night while my daughter was out, I was going through her stuff that was still boxed from when she had to leave school last semester - as we are leaving today to go back to school!!  I felt my eyes water (as they are now) as I came across the different "symbols" that showed me how far she has come --- there were the few foods she would eat, the green tea to fill herself up, and some very large clothes.  I remembered those many nightmare filled, frightening days - and am just so thankful that those are all part of her past (I removed them - they've been boxed for 6 months- no need for her to come across them). I can't stop hugging her and marveling, and praying for continuity.  She shared that she was a little concerned about going back and having her own bedroom (she has three other roommates/friends who all know her situation). Yesterday she then super shocked me, when we met for lunch and told me that morning she sky dived!  She said she felt that since she was able to jump out of a plane - she felt she could do anything. Honestly, I almost passed out! But I knew what she was saying when she said she "could do anything," and I couldn't help but hug her tightly . . . and beg her never to do that again!

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tina72
ATDT31, that is definitivly a gold star, you have done a great job!

Mimi321, mark that in your calender if you seem to be stuck sometimes in the next weeks so you can look back and see that great day! It is so important when the hunger clues come back!

And needhelp, it is great that she can go back to school! I feel with you about the sky dive, I would have fainted, I am sure!

So many gold stars within 1 day!
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Ronson
D ate tea and pudding under 45 mins tonight - no complaining, larger mouthfuls. Def a gold star moment for us. After last nights meltdown over me hurrying her on this is progress x

But I am scared to jinx it !!
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teecee
Ronson wrote:
D ate tea and pudding under 45 mins tonight - no complaining, larger mouthfuls. Def a gold star moment for us. After last nights meltdown over me hurrying her on this is progress x

But I am scared to jinx it !!


This is amazing! I’ve besn waiting for you to have a gold star moment and here it is already! Top job. Well done xxx
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Ronson
Thanks - I am now sitting nervous that there is something I’m missing - but hopefully was just a good meal x
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scaredmom
Ronson,

ENJOY THIS MOMENT!!!
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tammy
Great moment. Enjoy each gold star moment as they come and hopefully they will become more and more frequent. X
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MamaDo
Ronson,

So glad to hear! You absolutely deserve this gold star moment!!!🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
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Mamaroo
Great news, thanks for sharing!!!!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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