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Frazzled
Hi everyone, Wondering if anyone has experienced fluctuations in hunger when almost WR. My 10 year old D was previously hungry most of the time and this week has been complaining of being full and not feeling well. She is upset because she wants to be hungry. It starts with her shake at 2:00 (around 1,800 cals) and lasts through dinner and evening snacks. She has an upset stomach and a lot of gas. We are 2 1/2 months in and her stomach has not been upset really at all. Just occasional. Anyone else experience something similar? She has also just grown again this past week and is almost caught up in lost height. Doctor said she should be around 4’5 according to her growth curve. Just not sure if it’s sneaky ED or she is legitimately full. She is getting around 3,100-3,500 cals a day and is 1-2 # away from getting back on her growth curve for weight also.
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Frazzled
Thanks for your reply. I never thought about the period thing because she has never had it yet but that is a possibility. She did complain of cramping in her abdomen and is feeling bloated and moody so I wouldn’t be surprised. Thanks so much for suggesting that. I also think you are probably right that they are probably getting “too much” food right now since they are close to WR but unfortunately there is no backing down. Ugh. This is always a guessing game. Thanks again for your reply!
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teecee
We had this too. It does pass. We validated and gave a hot water bottle...keep feeding what she needs, it will settle down.
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Frazzled
Thanks for your replies. I am struggling this week with my D. Seems like we are in some ways back to the early days of refeeding. Crying during meals and complaining she is full. Moodier and when I go downstairs to do laundry etc I can hear her jumping around. Not nearly as bad as early days but still pretty awful. I hate ED!! She is finally WR as of this week. So that is good news. 😊
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Mamaroo
I agree with Mimi, a couple of extra pounds is the way to go. Even the men in the Minnesota semi starvation project gained around 10% more than their original weight. Its the body's way of providing a buffer in case starvation happens again. They returned to their normal weight after a year.
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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Frazzled
Upping calories/fats and soldiering on then. Thanks for the info. I sure hope this part is over quickly.
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Torie
Frazzled wrote:
Upping calories/fats and soldiering on then. Thanks for the info. I sure hope this part is over quickly.


Good for you!  My d is among those who needed to gain a good bit more than anyone had expected.  It really was the ticket back to health for my d.  xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Warrior1
We have had a noticeable change in hunger this last week too. At our last weigh in D was at about 105% weight for height. She had been pretty ravenous up until then. Over the last few weeks hunger had diminished in that she is no longer asking for extra snacks etc but still eating well. For the first time since refeeding started she hasn’t gained but maintained weight and has grown (yay)! I’m trying to trust now that her body knows what it needs but will keep monitoring. In some respects she couldn’t of continued to carry on gaining at the rate she was, so it is appropriate that it has slowed as long as there is no losses and behaviours continue to diminish! Remaining constantly vigilant! Xx
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Frazzled
Warrior1, That’s great you are over the hump and you can breathe a little easier now! Must be the same thing that happened with my D. It makes sense that once they get to the weight they are supposed to be at that they would respond differently to “overfeeding”. My D is hungry again thankfully and is eating well again without any trouble. She is still gaining also. So awesome for you that your D is maintaining and growing! Keep up the great work!
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