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Campingbird Show full post »
@Campingbird you are right. Our kids have such a hard fight and we need to remember how brave and determined they need to be. Xxx
Courage is not the absence of despair; it is rather the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair

to your daughter and you!
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
Seen the Paediatrician this morning and it was pretty positive. She was encouraged that I have taken over the feeding and that D was eating and is happy for us to continue with that at home. She did say that if I hadn’t done that, D would of been hospitalised for 3 weeks and pulled from school etc, which as it’s GCSE year would of been heartbreaking for her.
so it seems like we are on the right track but I just need to be increasing the calories.
She asked for a typical days food at the moment which D went through, and she picked up where we needed to change some items which was really helpful. Of course I was internally smiling knowing that most of the items were already boosted with cream and butter etc. 

Now waiting for therapy with Camhs so that D can deal with the mental side and how she feels about herself.

After the appointment we went to a coffee shop and we managed half a croissant with her hot choc before she went back to school. 

This forum has been awesome for giving me the confidence to do what I needed to do. I know that I can talk to someone if I need to and I don’t feel as hopeless as I did when I first found out what we were dealing with.

Thanks everyone for your advice so far, I’m sure i’ll be calling on you experience again, as I know it’s not going to be an easy road.

Hey, that is a pretty good update! Love your paediatrician!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Fantastic news, well done.

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
Great, it sounds like you are slowly getting the hang of things. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Yay, great progress!

(Pssst... keep boosting the meals.)

All the best with the GCSEs! 
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.