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linefine
We were waiting for the crash, and it came today.  I guess it wasn't too dreadful compared to some others' experiences, but made me sigh inside (and audibly....)  It was just refusal to finish her dinner, with all the usual, "I'm too tired/this is making me feel sick/I'm too tired to even chew/I need my bed" followed by "I'm NOT EATING ANY MORE!!!!" followed by "STOP WITH THE LECTURES!!!" as my H tried to explain why it was important (I know, he needs to read a bit more - he's very lovely, and totally on side, just loves to explain things!)  

Told her we'd sit here all evening if she wanted, so we sat for about 10 minutes more and then she picked up her fork and ate some more.  Then left the room saying she couldn't eat any more as it was making her shudder.  We let it go, as she'd eaten most of it, but then took her a shake to make up the calories, which she drank, even though she told me she thought she would throw up (and then didn't, of course).

I so feel for her.  I expect she is feeling sick, and it's a really horrible feeling.  Wouldn't it be nice if she realised how much we love her?  I guess that's a few years off, though! Second day at college, started badly (no idea why) and brought home most of her lunch, sigh.  This week is a test to see how things go, but it's not looking great so far.  I did talk to CAMHS though, and discovered that the Maudsley approach is the one they use.  Waiting for another team member to call me; feeling a bit more hopeful about that.
Heather

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always PROTECTS, always TRUSTS, always HOPES, always PERSEVERES. Love never fails.
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JustFlippinEatItNZ
Well done - stick with it :-)
19yo D, AN since Sept 2014. Was wt restored for a year or two but now starving again, refusing treatment or to admit she has a problem. BMI guesstimate around 13 or 14. Has left home.
Very sad Mum.
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Rayney
It's hard when the battling starts but all we can do is reassure and stand firm with compassion.  Sounds like you did well and she carried on and had the shake, well done.x
17 years old, well into recovery and taking full control of food herself and gaining weight, she's loving life at the minute, it does get better!!
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rosalind50
Well done. Stay strong and keep going x
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Torie
Way to go, linefine! 

Linefine 1
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Keep feeding.

xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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OneToughMomma
You're off to a great start!  Just keep swimming!

xoOTM
D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]
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Sotired
Keep on keeping on!you can do this!
Sotired42
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schnook
We had our first "real" standoff recently, and it was beyond chilling. Much sympathy and empathy to you.
Working hard at meal support and WR for an anxious and food avoidant 6yo
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